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Can you take a male who hasn't had sex seriously?

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:19:55 No.16406440 View Reply Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16408649 >>16408806 >>16409052 >>16409073 >>16409799 >>16409853 >>16410032 >>16410075

I am 25 and male. Never had sex.. My issue is that I feel as if people don't take me seriously. People seem to be able to tell I am a virgin(some fucking how) without me saying anything to them about it.

Like imagine if I were in any position of leadership. Whoever I am leading wouldn't take me serious. How could anyone take a male who hasn't had sex with a woman before serious?

What do women think of this? Can you take a virgin male serious about anything?

What sucks mostly is that I am super depressed about this. I am depressed about how non-existent my sex life is.

What even is a healthy sex life? If I had sex with prostitutes, is that a healthy sex life?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 11:48:15 No.16408520 Report Delete

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try to have confidence in yourself. it's fine to be a virgin, the goal is to not be self conscious about it. say you're waiting for the right person, work on bettering yourself and get to the point where you're comfortable with yourself rather than trying to complete yourself with (pointless) sex. I don't know, I was in a rush to lose it and I regret it now and I have trauma related to it. obviously you want to feel attractive to people, I promise confidence is most of that, even if you're a virgin

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 11:49:01 No.16408521 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16408569

I'm a female virgin (mostly) involuntarily at 22. It happens.
By mostly involuntarily, I mean I've had chances, but not with anyone I was remotely interested in.

I have friends that are virgins and friends that are massive sluts, but you wouldn't know which is which from looking at them or seeing how they act in normal situations.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 11:50:23 No.16408524 Report Delete

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>>16408515
If you don't look like this while fucking, you're not having serious sex.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 12:08:19 No.16408569 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16408676

>>16408521
It's not a bad thing in girls.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 12:36:18 No.16408649 Report Delete

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>>16406440
The only thing that makes you a loser, is that you are constantly losing your own imaginary game. Just stop playing.

Your problem isn't that you havent had sex, its that you are making up excuses. Be grateful for what you have / get, and try to actively pursue a good life. Stop complaining or make up excuses, just better yourself for your own sake... because its healthy (dont get obsessed or superficial).

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 12:46:56 No.16408676 Report Delete

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>>16408569
>It's not a bad thing in girls.

Not really, the acceptability window maybe a tad larger, but you don't want to get it on with a cat lady.

Unless you're REAL possessive like a guy I knew who married his (1st!) cousin since every other chick he had sex/relationship with was by default a whore according to him.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 12:54:45 No.16408689 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16408698

saying "is it tight" is almost as bad as "is it in yet"

dont make guys insecure with this shit ffs

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 12:56:09 No.16408698 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16408713

>>16408689
Not really, they just want you to say how tight it is. Just say "very" next time.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 12:59:43 No.16408713 Report Delete

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>>16408698

i'd pretend to pass out, and say "it's causing a lack of oxygen to my head".

what do they expect you to say anyway?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:02:04 No.16408717 Report Delete

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>>16408713
They like to hear you say it's very tight.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:04:26 No.16408729 Report Delete

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My bf is 25 and i took him very seriously, all the way to the bedroom. If people arent taking you seriously maybe you arent taking yourself seriously m8

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:27:40 No.16408806 Report Delete

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>>16406440
Well... the pope has never had sex and people takes him very seriously. Women are good detecting insecurity and selfhate. Things like the way you stand, walk, the tone of your voice and the way you defend ( or don't defend your opinions) usually give a clue on how strong and secure you are. Wear your virginity like a flag and they won't use it to harm you. Damn.. some girl might even want to take it if you look strong and cool. Just don't try it too hard cause that will also be detected as insecurity.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:50:09 No.16408872 Report Delete

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>>16408717
What if you can't even get it in because it's so tight?

Anonymous

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:35:49 No.16409052 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409068 >>16409069 >>16409101

>>16406440

I'm gonna give you the realest answer in this thread, because I've been through what you've been through and I've overcome it (sort of) after struggling with it a lot.

Yes, people will judge you. Especially women. Because people are dipshits.

You have two options:

1. Go fuck hookers.

or

2. Move to a society and culture in which male and female celibacy/virginity is the norm; i.e. a place where the Sexual Revolution never took place. This could be either somewhere in the Muslim world, or India, or Nepal, or any other place of your choosing. There you will be the normal, not the outlier.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:41:54 No.16409068 Report Delete

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>>16409052
You're a fucking moron.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:43:26 No.16409069 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409086

>>16409052
>Go fuck hookers
Yes, because having to pay a girl to have sex with you sure boosts your confidence.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:46:15 No.16409073 Report Delete

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>>16406440
People will only laugh at you if you're a grown man who isn't confident in himself. That you'd be so unsure over such a petty thing as sex only makes it worse.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:49:24 No.16409086 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409115

>>16409069
Waiting for
>you pay for sex in other ways

Those fuckers probably put a price on their mothers raising them.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:53:12 No.16409101 Report Delete

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>>16409052
>Move to a society and culture in which male and female celibacy/virginity is the norm

You mean buttfuck pakistan and sick fetish japan?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:57:27 No.16409115 Report Delete

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>>16409086
Let them rationalize their pathetic sex lifes.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:02:39 No.16409130 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409148

>Sex isn't that big of a deal. Don't worry about it so much
>haha look at that loser he can't even get laid
>afk going to have sex but don't worry its not a big deal or anything else
I wish you normalfags wouldn't be so fucking hypocritical

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:07:22 No.16409148 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409214

>>16409130
>haha look at that loser he can't even get laid

Consider that he can't get laid because is a loser, instead of it being the other way round.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:26:36 No.16409214 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409264 >>16409958

>>16409148
This, virginity is just a symptom, and a huge one.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:40:27 No.16409264 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409270 >>16409780

>>16409214
I have a good paying job, a house, friends, and a college degree but I'm still a kissless virgin. Does that make me a loser? By the general definition of society I'm a normal averagely successful male who contributes to society.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:42:13 No.16409270 Report Delete

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>>16409264
Sounds like you got your shit together just fine. The only thing that's loser about it the apparent lack of self confidence unless if you're horrendously ugly or some such.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:51:33 No.16409303 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409523 >>16409780

losing your virginity is not hard, you just need to get your shit together. I had these same feelings, had to lie about my virginity the whole time. but lost it some weeks ago, at 21. I then realized how fucking easy this shit is. I just asked the girl out, did stupid shit through the city and then drove to a motel.

The sex was terrible, I had to tell her the truth because of how awkward everything was, but I realized that the act of getting a girl there in first place was piss easy. The only thing that prevented me all these years basically was not having my own car, and not asking for tips from my close friends (I asked a friend where to fuck her, he told me about the place I took her, I was clueless without his help)

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 16:10:17 No.16409377 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409551 >>16409625 >>16409780

I'm a 21 year old virgin, and I'm actually considering suicide over this.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 16:50:41 No.16409523 Report Delete

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>>16409303
want to share how to get her THERE
or where to fuck

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 16:57:45 No.16409551 Report Delete

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>>16409377

Don't anon, improve yourself and focus on your hobbies. Women are not worth killing yourself over.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 17:20:25 No.16409625 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409780

>>16409377
I'm 20, same boat.

I know how you feel. I don't know if it helps but that is how it is.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:00:32 No.16409780 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409969

>>16409303
>>16409625
>>16409377
>21

There really should be a lower age limit of 25+, you bastards still have time to make mistakes.

>>16409264
>I have a good paying job, a house, friends, and a college degree but I'm still a kissless virgin. Does that make me a loser? By the general definition of society I'm a normal averagely successful male who contributes to society.
>friends

Maybe elaborate on that part since I have 'friends' too but they more like acquaintances. They're usually the weak link in the chain.

Anonymouse

Anonymouse Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:04:05 No.16409799 Report Delete

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>>16406440
20 year old gent who lost my V-card at 17 here
I look at nobody any different. Everyone gets theirs in their own time, man. I don't even feel any different than I did before. I still beat it to the same porn, the same way, and get about my day
Honestly, just understand that there's more to the world than your dick
Ride a bike
Shoot a gun
Try pot
Just stop thinking with your head, and start thinking with your head

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:24:21 No.16409853 Report Delete

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>>16406440
You have it all wrong dude. You think that's hapening because "ppl can tell u didnt have sex" when in fact you're just a beta cuck who doesn't have what it takes. It has nothing to do with sex, it's a mindset.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:45:28 No.16409936 Report Delete

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People won't take you seriously if you don't take yourself seriously. It sounds like you feel unconfident because you're a virgin; people can't guess that you're a virgin, but they can see your lack of confidence.

Try lying to yourself a bit, pretend you're not a virgin. Wouldn't that make you feel or act differently, if it were true? Believe in yourself and others will follow.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:49:07 No.16409948 Report Delete

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>>16406514
found the closet gay

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:52:20 No.16409958 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409979

>>16409214
>This, virginity is just a symptom, and a huge one.

How do you fix that then? How do you fix having boring interests?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:56:15 No.16409969 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16409994

>>16409780
No I have actual friends. A decent amount of them too.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:59:54 No.16409979 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410011

>>16409958
You find yourself.

It's not as vague as a seems I promise. It only seems that way because you're ignoring that which is in front of you.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:09:54 No.16409994 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410003

>>16409969
>No I have actual friends. A decent amount of them too.

Then I guess it boils down to you, as in your personality. Maybe you're too boring or irritating.

It could still be your friends though, are they 4chan incarnate?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:14:41 No.16410003 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410022

>>16409994
No, I have a wide variety of friends. Some of 4chan style, some are normalfags who hardly use computers, some are in between. I've been told it's my low self confidence that fucks me over. Maybe I'm a shitty person too, Idk. Either way I'm probably going to go to the bunny ranch at the end of the year to get rid of this virginity.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:16:51 No.16410011 Report Delete

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>>16409979
>It's not as vague as a seems I promise. It only seems that way because you're ignoring that which is in front of you.

What's in front of me? I don't know any dudes with even remotely the same boring interests as me, let alone any chicks that take interest in this crap.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:22:27 No.16410022 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410030

>>16410003
WOah, check those trips.

>I've been told it's my low self confidence that fucks me over. Maybe I'm a shitty person too, Idk.
Do you have any female friends? Most (all) of my friends are male, and I barely talk any women, so when a moment arises, I have fuck all to say.

>Either way I'm probably going to go to the bunny ranch at the end of the year to get rid of this virginity.
I doubt that'll solve the underlying issue.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:25:36 No.16410027 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410040

23 years old kissless virgin here, alone again on a Friday night, I don't feel like a normal person in this society, I don't even want to go out anymore and see all the couples shopping/walking/sitting in restaurants...Never had an intimate moment with a girl, except for that time when I had an erotic massage from a hooker
I'm so desperate, I'm literally crying as I write this. I'm not what you would consider a total loser : I'm a student at a top school in Europe, I would say I'm smarter than most, and not ugly (I was complimented a few times on dating apps and on the street, but this was outside Europe though)
What do I do to change this ? Be confident ? My self confidence was shattered during my high school years where I was bullied and mocked by the popular people, I still haven't fully recovered from that as you may have guessed

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:26:46 No.16410030 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410049

>>16410022
Yes. One of my best friends is female and if I seriously asked her she'd probably have sex with me but it'd fuck up our friendship. But yes, I do have other female friends.

It won't but hey at least I wouldn't be a virgin anymore.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:27:09 No.16410032 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410067

>>16406440
>Can you take a male who hasn't had sex seriously?
Is it by choice? if so, yes, if not, no.
I don't take anyone over the age of 22 who generally lack life experience seriously, if you haven't done interesting things and been to places, then you are probably boring.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:29:10 No.16410040 Report Delete

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>>16410027
>I'm so desperate, I'm literally crying as I write this.

Did you really need to tell us that?

Common census is aim low, but I live somewhere where it's looks like a boohoo commercial in the day and the wire at night, so there's nothing low for me to aim at. Maybe there is something low for you to aim at where you live?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:31:36 No.16410049 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16410065

>>16410030
>Yes. One of my best friends is female and if I seriously asked her she'd probably have sex with me but it'd fuck up our friendship. But yes, I do have other female friends.

I'm really at a loss with you, I don't know what to say. You're a special case on 4chan.

You must've fucked up in a previous life.

That or you're holding back on something.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:39:20 No.16410065 Report Delete

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>>16410049
She's also used to guys way more attractive than me so that's probably why we haven't even considered fucking each other. Also I'm not exactly the most attractive guy. It kinda sounds beta but its not.

Oh well. Thanks for listening to me. Just know that not all virgins are total fucking losers.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:40:44 No.16410067 Report Delete

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>>16410032
Not even the same anon, but literally autism the post

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:42:20 No.16410075 Report Delete

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>>16406440
>tfw pious Christian and I don't have to put up with your hedonistic worldly bullshit
Thank God

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