One of my friends is severely kept to themselves. I mean they give people almost 0 opportunities to open up to them. If someone was to ask what kind of music they liked, they would probably respond "I don't like music" even though they like music and want to make friends.

I've gotten them to open to me a bit after years of getting to know them. I have an idea of how to talk to them. I fear this person will never achieve their desires of companionship and romance.

I think I'm a sort of anchor for them for various things. I won't always be in their life though.

How do I aid them in this?

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There used to be this guy who it didn't work out with. But even after the fact, he simply would not leave me alone. He kept trying to start a conversation when I didn't want to talk to him. Appearing in places at frequent intervals that made me grow uncomfortable. And was generally just attempting to get near me when I didn't want anything to do with him.

But that was all four years ago, and I haven't seen him since until about six-weeks ago. He really does seem to have changed somewhat. But I still don't want anything to do with him as I'm still pretty mad about four years ago. He doesn't try to talk to me as much, but still made a couple attempts.

After the third attempt, I lost it and broke it to him. Through four plus years of build up, I chewed him out for I don't know how long. I don't think I've ever done this before, but it's been boiling inside me for a long time.

Except how he acted throughout the entire thing didn't really help matters, just not in the way you're thinking. He was basically quiet the whole time, and didn't say a thing. He just stood there looking sad and ashamed.

After a while, he sat down on the floor with his back against the wall, and looked at the floor as if really defeated, his hair covering his face. I don't know how long he sat there. I tried to get a response out of him, but nothing. And after starting to feel bad, I decided to walk away; so I honestly I don't know how long he sat there.

Hey guys of /adv/, how do I tell whether a guy wants a relationship, or just sex?

I cheated on my gf whos a virgin and i was to, with another girl who was also a virgin. My gf knows and shes fine now but i can't get rid of the thought, when my gf finally has sex with me the only thing i would think of is what i did to my girl. And also i lost my virginity by cheating on the love of my life, dont say if i loved her i wouldnt cheat on her because that isnt true i do.
What would /adv/ think and do?
Pic unrelated, only pic i had

my current predicament: i called a guitar center about a $130 pedal i fully intended to buy at the time. when i walked in and saw how unsecure the place was my intention changed and, forgetting i called from my number earlier, I stole it. am i fucked?

I feel... conflicted now. I use to think I didn't like black women like at all. I told myself that "Black women don't turn me on at all! I am just going to stick to dating non-blacks".

Then a few weeks ago, I met and started dating a black girl and ended up having sex with her last night. I have never cum so hard in my fucking life. I usually cum like a puny two to three dribbled squirts. This time I came 8-9 ROPES of ejaculate. I sprayed from her vagina all the way up to the base her neck. She is like 5 feet and 10 inches tall. Amazing butt, nice stomach. She has like that v-cut thing going on where her abdomen meets her ass hips I guess? Very sexy.

I loved feeling her smooth brown skin and seeing her brown eyes. I feel bad thinking about it because I use to think "Forget black women, I could never like one." and now I am fucking one.

I guess what I am trying to figure out.. What do I do? I kind of feel like an asshole because now I feel conflicted because I thought black women wouldn't turn me on and now I don't know what to feel or think. Picture isn't her but similar body type. Especially in the butt region.

I have no idea what the fuck to do. I'm stuck in a town with no work. Pretty sure the military isn't an option since I'm 23, have a hurt back and already stood up a recruiter once. I know no one here will help me. Not even sure why I'm posting this. I have no idea what to do

Is there any point in texting and using the phone when most of communication is non verbal?93% non verbal?

You've sent a funny text to her, all you get is a lol and a smiley faces

Vs

Saying it in person and seeing her laugh uncontrollably, snorking, expressing how funny you are in a excited tone and glaring at you like you're the only two people in the room.

Next question is.

What is considered busy when you're in a relationship with a girl.

You and your buddies are having a clan tournament on Call of Duty all today.

Vs

Hanging out with friends and family to try out a new resturant or you got a lot of work that needs to be done.

Aren't both considered being busy, isn't it your "Free time"?

Its a lot of stuff women do men don't understand and it's a lot of stuff men do that women don't understand that they do in they're free time.

I mean ofcourse if playing video games is all a guy has going for him and he doesn't make income of it than yeah stay away but should a women really look down on the guy for considering playing a game, "not being busy".

I need some advice

Thinking of quitting masturbation because I've heard it benefits you a lot, but I'm recovering from splitting up from my girlfriend (we are still in love) because I moved back to the United States.

We're broken up, but we still message and skype a lot. I can't even look at other girls because I'm so fixated on her. We're thinking of meeting up sometime in December.

Should I quit masturbation or is that a bad decision right now?

Pretty much a large part of my school life I've been bullied. Now I am a 23 year old business owner with quite some serious socializing issues. I've pretty much spent most of my late-teens on my own with very few friends with whom I only barely had contact with.

Quite frankly I'm sick of it. I'm sick of being that guy at the side of the party silently observing others sipping his drink and not talking much. It's not that I am anti-social, I'm just very introverted from having to hold back my opinions throughout most of my school-life.

All I really want though, is the simple things that'd make anybody happy. A couple of close friends and a relationship.

I've been steadily just forcing myself into more social encounters and talking more to people on my own incentive, and it's been working. My pool of friends is slowly growing and I have more and more contact with a select few. One thing however is still not fairing as well as just ordinary friendship. And that is the girlfriend part.

The last relationship I was in was when I was 16 years old. I met a girl during a visitation-day at our local high-school. Turned out we we're attending the same school at the time, she was just 2 years below me. Started hanging out in between classes and it was all good. Fastforward 3 months. Turned out she was seeing 3 other guys as well and essentially using them to get free stuff such as movietickets.

Fast forward again to about 2 weeks ago. I started getting in touch with an old crush of mine from when I was 17 and in last year of that school. She was 1 year below me and we hung out quite a bit during that time. We started talking about what we are up to these days. I really want to get to know her better, but I am afraid I'll somehow mess this up and push her away. Recent conversations have all dried up quite fast as I am really awkward around girls I like. Any tips?