I got contacted recently by this girl. She claims she's my daughter and she named my first girlfriend from high school as her mom.

When I was 15 I had a very short relationship with this girl. She moved away eventually but I did have unprotected sex with her once. She never contacted me about any baby though which is why I'm suspicious, she could have had a guy on the side or got a guy when she moved. She wasn't exactly a pure innocent maiden.

She wants to meet up with me. Should I even entertain the idea? I feel like this will lead to nothing but trouble, should I ignore her?

Everything is going to be okay.

What is the difference between an insecurity and a goal?

For example, if it is one of my insecurities that I am not funny enough, if I try and be funny is this acting out of insecurity?

can someone please clarify. thanks

Hey /adv/,

I have a close female friend who I have a bit of a crush on. We see each other every day in class and talk alot. We've hung out outside of school a few times too, and we know each other pretty well. Thing is, she never texts me, it seems Im always the one starting a conversation, although to be fair we dont text that often. Is she not really interested in me as a friend, or what? I know its probably nothing, but it feels nice to know someone is thinking about you and wants to talk to you.

Uncommitted relationship. Basically we used to fuck but have this agreement that we don't fuck anyone else. I won't lie and say that I'm the one who wants us to stay as just friends...lately I've been so clingy with this girl and I've driven off those little affections she used to give me.

Now in 3 months I'll be heading back to my home country. I really want this girl's affections again it's driving me nuts...I'm just a sook I guess so basically how do I get her off my mind and leave an avenue for potential sex with eachother in the future and for her to give me those cute little affections she used to do, I loved that stuff.

Or am I just completely fucked? She barely calls or texts me anymore. 3 days ago she gave me a headjob after I kinda forced her....I but it's been like 2 weeks since we fucked and I don't think she's into fucking me anymore. I just want to fuck her again and have all that cute little affectionate shit she used to give me :(

I know the best approach would just be to ignore her for a while, but I'm having anxiety about how much time I have left in this country.

I have a date tomorrow and I'm nervous as fuck. this girl is boisterous and outgoing. I havent shaved or done fucking anything remotely productive these last few days....it just came out of nowhere. She straight up told me "you're taking me out tomorrow" I mean fucking hell....(she kept hinting at a date and I kept shutting it down and she got fed up)

I need some mental preparation tips and just general advice.

Long story short, I had sex for the first time with a female friend of mine. Despite wanting to have sex in general, and with her specifically, I didn't really feel anything at any point. I suppose I thought there was this magic to sex that made it so desirable to everyone. Playing with her boobs (C cups), for instance, wasn't nearly as great as I thought it would be. Even when I was inside her. It was warm, I guess, but that was it. Before I ask why this might have been, I think it might have had something to do with the next part.

I'm about 6' and I think she's probably 5' or 5'2. So that made things...difficult to figure out. I, apparently, also have a much bigger dick than her previous boyfriend, so she wasn't used to it. The condoms she had in her room were a bit tight on me, so I think that might have been part of it. She also had a really small vagina, I had to be careful not to hit the other side. I'm hard pressed to say it was good sex--I never came, or even got close to it, with two attempts.

Was it the difference in body size, the tight condom, is there something wrong with me? I've been very angry recently, and this actually wasn't (and hasn't been) the top thing on my mind for awhile. I first kissed a girl a few years back, because she kind of liked me, and I remember not feeling anything then either.

Let me just start off this thread by stating that I'm not white, but of Asian descent.

Ever since the recent tensions between the African American community in the US (Ferguson, Baltimore, etc.), I start treating African Americans a bit differently than Chinese, Indians, French, etc. Whenever I am told to interact for some reason, I immediately become cautious of what I am saying. Even with jokes that have absolutely no racial references in it, I still don't say it. I don't want to offend; I basically don't want to interact with black people. This is mostly (again, in my belief) because of fear of what could happen if one black person is rubbed the wrong way.

Another thing I do is that I don't try to sit with black people. Especially when it comes to the lunchroom. In times where I am unable to sit with my friends, I don't randomly sit down somewhere. I make sure that where I sit is in low proximity between black people so that I'm not involved (or seem to be involved) in anything that could happen.

I want to be able to give respect to every person. Just as Martin Luther Kind Jr. said, I want to judge people by the content of their character, not their skin color.

Is this racism? What can I do to fix this before I become believing in such thoughts?

Thanks.

I stumbled upon a Laci Green video the other day about consent and it got me thinking.

So let's say you have a few drinks, get drunk, and get behind the wheel. No one forced you to have said drinks and drive. Under the law, this is considered a DUI and you must take all responsibility for your actions under the influence.

Now let's say a girl and a guy are both drunk and they decide to have sex with each other. The girl wakes up the next morning to find herself completely unharmed, but she feels bad about what happened last night and/or regrets it. No one forced the two to drink. Let's say for the sake of the argument, these two don't know each other and only met when they wanted to have sex. Why is she allowed to say she was too drunk to give consent and make a claim of rape?

Also, if the man claims he was raped, why wouldn't that hold up in court? He was under the exact same circumstances as she was.

Is Petroleum Engineering Hard? I hear it is one of the highest paying College Majors out there, and I am interested.

Is it hard at all? Stressful? Decent pay? Help me out /adv/.