I used to have very low confidence with girls, so my entire sex life revolved around drunken one-night stands with girls who made the first move. This didn't happen too often - just frequently enough so my friends didn't think I was gay. I didnt enjoy it once. Then I got involved with a girl who I thought was awesome and developed feelings for pretty quickly, but it turned out she was only really interested in sex and companionship while she was lonely and was never interested in a relationship with me, so she dumped me (without even telling me) as soon as she met someone she actually liked.

That made me pretty fucked-up/bitter, so I decided that I would not do anything with a girl anymore unless I genuinely liked her. I developed confidence in myself, and so my standards of girls who were 'good enough for me' got higher. In the two and a bit years since this happened, I've only had a crush on two girls. With the first nothing happened, and although I kissed and slept with the second, we didn't actually have sex, and are now hundreds of miles apart. I'm much happier in my life now then I was then, but my growing drought is worrying me. It feels like everyone else my age is having lots of sex and taking things far less seriously than me, while I'm waiting for the perfect woman even though I'm still far from perfect myself.

Should I relax my standards a bit and look for another one-night stand so I stop worrying about how long it is since I last had sex?