/adv/, i need some help or at least some stories of other people going through my situation.

i'm 21 in college, graduating in a year, and i just got out of a relationship so i'm feeling lonelier than usual. however, regardless of whether or not i'm dating someone, i have a lot of difficulty making and keeping friends.

i feel like i have standards that are just too high; when someone says something i don't totally feel down with, or when they're into something i don't like, my brain immediately shuts down and i can't get along with them no matter how hard i try. when i do actually try talking to people, i feel like i have nothing in common with them... i don't feel like i'm above them or anything, but i feel this big disconnection between me and the people i meet in class/at work/elsewhere. no one is on my level, and i'm not on their level either. i feel like this even with people i'm close to, too.

basically what i'm asking is, does anyone think it will actually help to get a hobby, go to a school club, etc? i toy with the idea but it seems like no matter what i do, nothing's going to help and i'm just born to be alone. what have you guys done to help in situations like this?