let me start by saying please don't troll my thread. i'm obviously not perfect and maybe have made some mistakes to get to where i am with this man, but i'm in love and there's nothing that can stop me from trying to win him for myself now.

i'm 23, he's 39. we met at a bar, and the first time i slept with him i didn't know he was married. he wanted to continue the relationship and eventually it came out that he was married and has two daughters in high school. his wife doesn't care about him at all and spends a lot of her time doing work out of town- sometimes out of the country. he told me that they sleep together maybe twice a year, and he's really frustrated with it but still loves her for some reason. i guess she was raped as a kid and now has serious issues surrounding sex. which is horrible, but i feel like if you can't keep your man happy then you probably don't deserve him.

and i'm deeply in love. please help. if he says he doesn't want to leave her, how can i convince him to? i'm afraid if i tell him that i'm in love he might end things with me, so before i do that i want him to see how much better his life would be with me. i will make a much better wife than his current one tbh. divorce is almost as common as marriage these days and i think it's time she found someone else.