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Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 15:32:37 No.16386856 View Reply Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16386895 >>16387877 >>16389459 >>16389584 >>16390054 >>16390264

I dunno how to meet women.

What about if I regularly see the same cashier or similar salesgirl when you're out can you slip her your number or something like that? I mean it's worth a try right?

Anyone ever done anything like that or had it happened to you?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 15:43:41 No.16386895 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16386921 >>16386938

>>16386856
You flirt and charm.

Getting anywhere with the opposite sex is 80% communication.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 15:51:29 No.16386921 Report Delete

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>>16386895
not OP
but how do i flirt with and charm someone?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 15:55:35 No.16386938 Report Delete

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>>16386895
no shit.

my questions is where do you go about making the initial contact. I can think of cashiers and the like that you see when you're out and about but thats it.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 15:57:54 No.16386951 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16386972

Cashier here. Just letting you know that your number will go straight into the little bin by our feet. You're not the first guy who thinks hitting on cashiers is a good idea, and you won't be the last either

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:03:58 No.16386972 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16386980

>>16386951
but what if you actually liked the guy?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:05:33 No.16386980 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16386991 >>16386993

>>16386972
How do I know if I like the guy if the only interaction we've had is him buying stuff and me ringing up his basket?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:08:51 No.16386991 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387001

>>16386980
like, if he was a regular that came through a lot and you had a quick word each time.

yeah it would be stupid to just hand off your number the first time of course, without even charming her at all. lel.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:09:36 No.16386993 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387001

>>16386980
>Hugh Jackman tier dude walks in
>Buys him some grocery and leaves his number to the cashier with a charming smile on his face
>Our 5/10 cashier gurl who lurks 4chan thinks it's gross and trashes the number immediately.

Yeah right.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:11:36 No.16387001 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387022 >>16387026 >>16387061 >>16388831 >>16388870 >>16388893

>>16386991
>>16386993
He's still a stranger. Do you really think we're stupid enough to go out with a stranger? Do you really think we don't know guys in our personal lives we'd rather be with? Sure, some girls might be into it, but the majority of us already have boyfriends or crushes or whatever and we're not interested. Especially not when you've dealt with several guys like you already.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:17:17 No.16387022 Report Delete

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>>16387001
This. The days of hitting on people you don't know is over. That type of behavior is only acceptable in bars or clubs where the sole purpose is to find a mate.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:19:45 No.16387026 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387115

>>16387001
I've fucked women who didn't know me well and "has boyfriends, husbands, and crushes". It's common that women chase some adventure. Maybe women who got burnt and fucked around enough would settle and be genuinely not interested. But I've seen ridiculous shit. Don't fool betaboys into not showing their interest. Because it might work.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:28:50 No.16387054 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387063

Don't hit on girls when they're at work. It's awkward. They're being paid to be friendly and nice so it's hard to actually figure out if they actually like you or they're just doing their job.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:29:51 No.16387061 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387115

>>16387001
>Do you really think we're stupid enough to go out with a stranger
Isn't the idea of dates to get to know each other so you're no longer strangers?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:30:10 No.16387063 Report Delete

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>>16387054
so then what do you do?

people are at 'work' for a majority of their lives. if you call that off-limits you're throwing out a huge portion of time.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:44:58 No.16387115 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387127 >>16387222 >>16388787 >>16388893

>>16387026
Do you really think 'betas' have what it takes to get a girl to impress a girl like that though? I highly doubt they're relationship material either, which is generally what guys here are looking for.

>>16387061
No, it's to get to know someone you already know (with the exception of blind dates, I guess) better and to see if you're romantically compatible with each other.

The problem with guys who think hitting on cashiers and such is a good idea is that they see them like a kid sees their teacher. You know how when you were a kid, you thought your teacher had no life outside school and at the end of the day they were put into a cupboard or something? Like that.

Another analogy would be that you guys seem to see these girls like minor characters in a video game, with you as the protagonist. They're programmed to talk to you, and have meaningful conversations with only you. Talk to them enough, be attractive enough and you can unlock a date with them, but they don't have personalities, lives and relationships outside of when you talk to them.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:49:29 No.16387127 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387135 >>16387270 >>16390720

>>16387115

>Impress a girl like that

Bitch you work at a checkout line, get off your high horse.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:50:14 No.16387133 Report Delete

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For you OP, the Internet.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:51:23 No.16387135 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387160

>>16387127
I don't think you realise that most of us are students and only work there part time. None of us plan to be there in the long run. The full-timers are the older ladies.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 16:57:50 No.16387160 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387177

>>16387135
>she thinks she's going to get a real job after college

lol

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 17:00:55 No.16387177 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16387190

>>16387160
>he thinks he knows anything about me
I'm sorry, are you butthurt because cashiers don't want to date you?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 17:01:03 No.16387180 Report Delete

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The best way to meet women is to join a club, through other friends or find some other social activity.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 17:03:03 No.16387190 Report Delete

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>>16387177
naw I haven't even tried it yet, I just think it's funny how defensive you're getting

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 17:13:42 No.16387222 Report Delete

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>>16387115
>No, it's to get to know someone you already know
Them flirting with you and giving you their number is trying to get to know you. You're not letting that happen, but don't act like it can't

Anonymous

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Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 17:31:34 No.16387270 Report Delete

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>>16387127
This. Laughing my ass off.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 18:16:43 No.16387420 Report Delete

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I recently gave my number to a checkout girl that I'd gotten to know over the past year

She never called.

Now going back is awkward.

If you shop there frequently, don't do it

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 18:26:25 No.16387447 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16390765

don't slip her your number. get her to want to give it to you. start conversing. if one conversation has a good vibe, maybe she'll give you her number, i.e. "hey i really love talking to you haha, but i think the time limit is up for this conversation, shoot," if she replies "yeah i agree" or anything like that then proceed with "hey maybe we can talk sometime outside of here?", if she's something like "maybe yeah" or "yeah, that would be nice", then get her number, if not, no sweat, no awkwardness

Anonymous

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Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 20:16:54 No.16387710 Report Delete

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Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 24 Oct 2015 21:03:51 No.16387877 Report Delete

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>>16386856
Avoid doing it at the store. I would suggest meeting girls somewhere else like at a library, a club/bar, some sort of volunteering-group or anything else really. I can vouch for the fact that it's not really that hard to meet girls if you put yourself out there enough, although the next stage of charming them and finding someone worthwhile is difficult. I hear the book "Models" is good for this stuff, although I cannot vouch for it's life-changing capabilities as I never read it personally.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 01:08:15 No.16388787 Report Delete

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>>16387115
>The problem with guys who think hitting on cashiers and such is a good idea is
girls do it too

im not disagreeing just being transparent

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 01:23:43 No.16388831 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16389573

>>16387001
Don't speak for all women
You're pretty much saying you shouldn't hit on girls in general in public because they have other guys they rather be with

As a guy you can't operate like that if you want to get girls

Saying majority of girls aren't interested is a bs statement you just pulled out our ass

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 01:38:05 No.16388870 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16390388

>>16387001
>Sure, some girls might be into it, but the majority of us already have boyfriends or crushes or whatever and we're not interested.
Literally worst advice I've ever seen here. As the other anon pointed out, if men had this mindset, they would never find a partner at all.

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Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 01:43:46 No.16388893 Report Delete

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>>16387001
>>16387115
So you're saying that the only way to get into a relationship with a girl is to be an a social situation in which you're forced to interact?

Should I never talk to girls who I find attractive because they already get attention and thus don't need me?

If you're not in school and don't drink, are you basically limited to online dating?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 04:47:49 No.16389459 Report Delete

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>>16386856

Tact, a sense of humor, a bit of charm, confidence and not taking yourself too seriously. Girls hate neurotic, self loathing woe is me types. Go have fun and dont be all highschool crush creepy.

All it took for me to gain the attention of the girl Im seeing now was a hello, a friendly lighthearted chat and a hug at the end of the night. Show interest but make it seem like you arent afraid of rejection. Be a risk taker. Eye contact is also important.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 05:38:48 No.16389573 Report Delete

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>>16388831
If all men listened to women's advice for dating, humans would be no more on the face of Earth. Not trying to be bitter but when asked, women always describe a certain kind of man (beta) and they go fuck the opposite. And they generally suck at dating advices. I never listen to my girl friends. Huh, they ask me what to do anyway. I have close girl friends and I asked them to be real with me about what they want from a man, what kind of a man they want. We can be real to each other because they are 100% I'm not going to try to fuck them, that would make everything weird and stuff. Anyway they said they want "an animal who has an understanding about women's soul". That's the answer that has been proven many times to be. Dating is not the area of life to be shy. You want to fuck a cashier, go for it.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 05:45:59 No.16389584 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16389705

>>16386856
Starting a conversation with a total stranger is always awkward. Best advice I've ever gotten, if you legitimately make a girl laugh you're in.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 07:05:06 No.16389705 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16389759

>>16389584
>if you legitimately make a girl laugh you're in.
how do i make a girl laugh?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 07:38:29 No.16389759 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16389839

>>16389705
Take a jab at something she's familiar with perhaps? This would imply you have a common ground though. Also I'm assuming you have your own place with your own vehicle. Figure out what you like doing for hobbies then try to find groups that do this in your area. Have a dog? Take it to dog parks. Like running? Don't run around your neighbourhood, run at the city park where everyone runs. Also don't get fucked up on drugs all the time, legal or not that generally gets redundant and expensive and usually only attracts girls who "live in the moment" unless that's what you want. I'm assuming you want a girlfriend and not a fuck doll. I'm assuming a lot here. Dating websites are pretty popular too, its not for nerdy socially illiterate fuck tards any more. Learn how to dress yourself. Expressive clothing is childish and immature. I'm just rambling now, should I continue?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 08:59:43 No.16389839 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16389988

>>16389759
>>16389759
>Take a jab at something she's familiar with perhaps?
make fun of something she's into? i can't even do this tbh

the other things you mention seem to be for getting hobbies. i don't know any groups that share similar interests to me. and there are no good city parks close by

i do know how to dress myself

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 10:29:31 No.16389988 Report Delete

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>>16389839
No! lol Don't make fun of her. I mean...it would probably work if she had a low self esteem or something.
Not the hobby itself, I'm just telling you to do hobbies that include social interaction where you'll meet other people who have the same interest.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 10:53:52 No.16390054 Report Delete

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>>16386856
Go to places where you like to hang out. Be a regular. Engage conversation if it comes naturally. Try to enjoy yourself first. You will attract people in general. And then potentially girls.
If you engage in a conversation with a girl, don't go for the number or compliments at first. Just be friendly, be curious about her and make jokes if you can once in a while.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 12:28:16 No.16390264 Report Delete

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>>16386856
im always careful with flirting with girls who are at work cause its their job to be nice and smile to you

also they cant go away so you put them in an awkward situation and i think thats kindoff uncool

but if you are really hot you could get away with it though

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 13:18:11 No.16390388 Report Delete

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>>16388870

>tfw I have developed this mindset at age 26 when 90% of interesting and/or attractive women are engaged, married, otherwise taken etc

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 15:15:09 No.16390720 Report Delete

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>>16387127
#rekt

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 15:31:34 No.16390765 Report Delete

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>>16387447
As the person behind you waiting in line, please don't do this shit. It's bad enough with the fat Mexican lady behind me loudly gabbing on her phone while her fat Mexican baby is crying about not getting the candy bar he wants. Don't make me suffer through that any longer than I have to. I just wanted to buy some eggs....

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