So I've been depressed for about 9 years and about a month ago I started seeing someone whose totally perfect for me, but the depression is starting to have a severe impact on our relationship. The primary issues is the fact that I can't perform, it's pretty much impossible for me to finish and I have a really difficult time keeping it up. This is my first relationship and the first time I've been intimate with anyone, but I'm almost certain it's because of the depression. I've never tried to treat it before, but for the first time I've considered looking into anti-depressants, but I hear that these also have the side-effect of fucking you up sexually.

What's a guy to do?