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How can I maximize damage control?

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:10:30 No.16391333 View Reply Report Delete

Story time
This is how I banged a girl and might get labeled a rapist
Part 1
>be me
>be 19
>going to college and working at a retail store
>7/10 new coworker joins crew, I instantly crush on her
>ask her out
>she says no, she has a bf
>whatever

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:11:04 No.16391337 Report Delete

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Part2
>Fast forward two years, both still work here and both going to college
>no longer have crush, she has put on a little weight. I’d say shes now a 6/10
>she is being sexually harassed, regardless of slight weight gain, by her boss
>She becomes very depressed and confides it to me and several other people she feels comfortable with.
>recommend not keeping it a secret so that something can be done to fix the situation.
>Several days go by, me and four coworker friends are going out to a restaurant with a bar after close
>I invite girl because she dropped some hints that she wanted to go
>I get shitfaced and she did not drink because she was only 20
>eventually everyone leaves and it’s just the two of us
>she stays until I am good to drive
>we become less than friends, but more than acquaintances

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:12:05 No.16391342 Report Delete

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Part 3
>Another new girl starts working
>she is solid 9/10
>Sexual harassment still affecting storygirl, but now hotbitch is the new primary focus for obvious reasons
>storygirl and hotbitch become fast friends
>hotbitch is probably 18, literally in the first conversation I had with her she uttered the following phrases: “I love dick inside me” and “Anon I can really tell you have a kind soul”
>have a girlfriend, do not pursue hotbitch because of this also in the back of my mind think that hotbitch is way out of my league anyway
>hotbitch eventually quits due to sexual harassment
>before she goes tells me storygirl is depressed
>hotbitch suggests we all go do something together
>I wonder if they think I’m their gay friend or something
>we decide to go bowling but hotbitch cancels on us so it’s just the two of us
>later find out hotbitch was trying to play match maker
>we have a lot of fun, storygirl tells people at work that it was “the most fun she had in a long time” and people think we’re a thing but we really aren’t
>So we’ve now hung out twice, both times she had a blast

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:13:15 No.16391349 Report Delete

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Part 3
>fast forward roughly one year
>be two days ago
>be 22
>storygirl is 21
>closing one night and we have a conversation about something unrelated
>she tells me she is 21 now and got drunk at her birthday party but her friends wouldn't let her get too drunk
>I say "You're clearly not doing it right" she laughs at this
>asks me if we can all go out drinking again like one year prior
>I tell her I'm down
>she asks, "Is this something we're actually going to do, or is this something we say we will do but never actually do?”
>tell her I’m down to do it any night after work except Monday because of the way my school schedule is
>tell her “I’ll drink with you in the parking lot if you have anything in your car”
>she asks if I’m serious
>tell her yes
>”I don’t have anything in my car, how about we drink in the Walmart parking lot?”
>go to Walmart
>but jagermeister and redbull
>start drinking in parking lot but realize this is stupid and I say “lets go to your apartment and I’ll just go home after a few hours”
>she says “my apartment is a mess how about yours?”

>she follows me to my apartment
>we’re getting very drunk and just doing friendly stuff
>throw eggs off my balcony at teenagers
>prank call people we know
>watch archer
>just generally being stupid
>she gets sick and throws up in my bathroom
>I give her a toothbrush and carry her into my bedroom
>think better of it but say “fuck it, this is my bed”

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:14:28 No.16391354 Report Delete

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Part 5
>storygirl says “I’m sorry for throwing up in your bathroom, thank you for the toothbrush and thank you for tucking me in”
>I tell her it was my pleasure, don’t know why I said it like that
>almost instantly she says “I like to cuddle… I really like to cuddle” and becomes the little spoon
>put my arm around her and feel her grinding her ass on my dick
>bonerachieved.pdf
>put my hand under her shirt and start to play with her nipples
>she is breathing heavy
>I take off her shirt and remove her bra
>suck on nipples
>slight moaning
>she is loving this
>she takes off her pants and says “I have to leave my panties on its not fair to my boyfriend or your girlfriend”
>rub pussy through panties and say “yeah but you’re really wet”
>SHE takes off her panties
>start to finger her and start to lick her clit
>she starts moaning at like 80 fucking decibels
>we’ve got a screamer
>stand up and pull her to edge of my bed and start rubbing my dick on her pussy
>she says “wait, it’s wrong to screw someone when you’re drunk, it’s supposed to be special. It’s not fair to my boyfriend or your girlfriend”
>I say “Weren’t you just telling me that he’s only ‘kind of’ your boyfriend now?” (I guess they devolved into on again off again type, same boyfriend as from beginning of story)
>still rubbing dick on her pussy, head slides in and she explodes in pleasure
>squirming on my bed, biting my sheet and pulling it up in her mouth, rubbing her nipples
>she says “I don’t want to get pregnant, can you put a condom on?”
>check closet
>damn it
>go outside apartment in boxers only and find a group of niggers and wiggers hanging out and smoking in the parking lot
>I say “Hey any of you guys got a condom? I’ll give you five bucks for it”

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:16:03 No.16391366 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391632

Part 8
>pretty cool dude opens the trunk of his car pulls one out and tosses it at me and says “on the house bruh, get some for me”
>reenter my apartment
>lock door behind me
>see storygirl laying in my bed
>start fingering her and put my semi hard dick in her face
>she utters the words “I don’t do that” and I realized that I would never have feelings for her and this was going to be a hit it and quit it
>I say “are you fucking serious?” she says “I just can’t…”
>whatever
>get hard from fingering her
>put on condom and enter her
>she screams loud as fuck and I’m thinking this bitch is rude as fuck, we’re in an apartment building
>about five minutes of fucking her laying on her back and her pussy at the edge of my bed
>I put my finger in her mouth and she starts sucking
>maybe I just gotta play with her if I want my dick sucked
>I slow down and pull my dick out, want to try and get it sucked again
>she says “Did you finish?” almost sounds sad
>I’ve got whiskey dick and a condom on, I’m lucky it’s even hard. there’s no way I finished
>”not yet” I say
>”Oh… Cody only lasts like two minutes”
>”Is it a problem that I didn’t finish?”
>”No way Anon… more fun for me…”
>For whatever reason that made me abandon all desire for a blowjob and just want to fuck her
>she wraps her legs around my waist and I lift her up, put her arms around my neck and shoulders
>my hands are on her ass and I am just bouncing her up and down on my dick
>she screams when she goes down and moans when I lift her back up
>Throw her down on my bed and fuck her in accordance with Universal Catholic and Apostolic Church
>Now I should mention my dick is probably in the median, it’s not big but it’s also not small. Only 6” and its girth is pretty average as well.
>I am fucking her missionary and I go balls deep, head of my dick is punching her cervix

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:17:41 No.16391376 Report Delete

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Parts are messed up because I'm sloppily combining them to post fewer comments.

This is where it gets bad

>As soon as I go balls deep she orgasms, she starts moaning and yelling and her arms and legs don’t even know what to do. She is breathing heavy and we make out.
>I roll her over, pull her ass up and enter her from behind
>With my penis inside her she starts crying
>this bitch is having an emotional breakdown with my penis inside her
>She starts crying louder and louder and I ask “Whats wrong?”
>”I CHEATED ON CODY! I CHEATED! OH MY GOD POOR CODY! I MISS CODY! I WANT MY CODY! WHY DOESN’T CODY LOVE ME?”
>fuck
>at this point I’m no longer inside her and just trying to get her to calm down
>Finally convince her to stop crying and we go to sleep, cuddling
>She wakes me up at some point in the night and goes to the bathroom
>comes back to bed and apologizes for crying and I say “its fine” and she says “I just didn’t want you to think you weren’t good”
>self-esteem increases
>go to bed again
>more time goes by and she stops wanting to cuddle and moves away
>I’m thinking its just hot, whatever
>Wake up in the morning and she starts getting dressed and says “I have to go home and take a shower and change. I’m never getting drunk again”
>I can tell she’s unhappy, but can’t tell if its hangover or regret. Probably both.
>I text her several hours later and ask if shes hungover, no response
>plzrespond.exe
>Don’t really think anything of it other than she’s probably upset about cheating
>A day goes by and I come to the conclusion that she is ignoring me

Anonymous

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Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:18:57 No.16391382 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391468 >>16391644

The following conversation takes place over text

I am worried that best case scenario half my store will think I'm a piece of shit. Worst case she claims rape and I get arrested.

How can I do better damage control on this situation? What should I do to fix this?

opportunist

opportunist Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:43:58 No.16391468 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391495 >>16391863

>>16391382
don't fucking text her back you dope. she can cry rape, and nowadays women who cry rape and do something about it usually win in these cases.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 18:51:51 No.16391495 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391557

>>16391468
Problem is we work together. I will have to communicate with her face to face and I'd like to fix the situation entirely

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:00:57 No.16391538 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391541 >>16391545 >>16391629

you both were drunk when this happened. I don't even see how she could cry rape because you were in the same state of mind she was.

she's probably just mad at herself that she cheated on her boyfriend and wants to play the "he took advantage of me" card so the boyfriend hates you instead of her

good luck bro

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:02:39 No.16391541 Report Delete

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>>16391538
thanks man

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:03:05 No.16391545 Report Delete

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>>16391538
This, but the best thing you can do is give her some space while she is so emotional and let her cool down somewhat.

Pegasus !!4nagLPzwxlE

Pegasus !!4nagLPzwxlE Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:07:17 No.16391554 Report Delete

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>>16391333
thats veruca james right

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:08:18 No.16391557 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391561

>>16391495
The only thing you can do that won't make this any worse, is to not speak unless spoken to. You've said what you needed to say way too much already, so don't repeat any of what you've written to her, even if she disagrees with you any further via text. Be polite at work, but not in any stalkerish or creepy way, just acknowledge her presence at the bare minimum. Act as if she just startet out at work and she's in no way a co-worker you'd be interested in talking to or getting to know.

She'll either forgive herself for doing what she did, and might at some point start acting more friendly again, or she might ignore you for the rest of the time the two of you are working together.

If she ever starts threatening you, seek more advice.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:10:31 No.16391561 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391578

>>16391557
>>16391545

thanks will do

>>16391554
yessir

Pegasus !!4nagLPzwxlE

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Pegasus !!4nagLPzwxlE Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:14:17 No.16391578 Report Delete

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>>16391561

Veruca is my porn waifu

Would marry

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:23:03 No.16391618 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391777

>>16391354

this is where I began to Boner

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:25:38 No.16391629 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391881

>>16391538
you know strictly in a legal sense, if you've ever had sex with a woman when she was intoxicated at any level that was rape, because the law sees it that women are unable to consent while under the influence of alcohol. and even if the man was drunk he is not excused from his actions.

There are also people who believe any penis in vagina is rape, no matter what. so both legally and ethically speaking and culturally it doesn't matter what you do anon.

Women are terrible you're a fool for not staying away from them in general.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:25:55 No.16391632 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391777

>>16391366

>median
>not mean/average

I like you OP

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:28:50 No.16391644 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391777

>>16391382

Why are you hanging out with this bottom-of-the-barrel lowest-common-denominator scum?

Stay in school kid, you'll be alright.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:31:37 No.16391657 Report Delete

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Yeah, I'm not reading that wall of text. Just get her dad to suck you off.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 19:55:21 No.16391734 Report Delete

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Sorry about this OP it seems the both of you messed up bad, and yea maybe you a little worse since she could say you raped her. I would only worry about this since you say she has some history of mental issues and if pressured by her boyfriend who she cheated on could confess to it, but cover and say you assualted her where he would then try to have her file charges against you or hurt you instead. The worst part could be that if she does but you are proven innocent your rep is still damaged , and might not even be able to work there again since the police would probable interview your co-workers.

Just leave her alone and hope she stays stable. Also have you thought about telling your girlfriend? I know it might be hard to do but in doing so might show that by admitting it to her that sex with that girl wasn't rape but consentual drunken sex by both parties and could tell police this charges are filed.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 20:08:49 No.16391777 Report Delete

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>>16391644
literally laughed my ass off at this

Yeah man she is actually pretty unintelligent

>>16391632
I like you too

>>16391618
glad you could boner

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 20:32:17 No.16391863 Report Delete

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>>16391468
>nowadays women who cry rape and do something about it usually win in these cases.
do you just make this shit up? Criminal sexual assault is a very hard claim to prove

Unless OP lives in California, alcohol isn't going to vitiate her consent

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 20:37:02 No.16391881 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16391985

>>16391629
>you know strictly in a legal sense, if you've ever had sex with a woman when she was intoxicated at any level that was rape, because the law sees it that women are unable to consent while under the influence of alcohol. and even if the man was drunk he is not excused from his actions.
jesus christ, no
you are so dumb
did you get your law degree at /r9k/U?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 21:05:13 No.16391985 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16392014

>>16391881
Yes Means Yes law that just passed earlier this year in California.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 25 Oct 2015 21:14:13 No.16392014 Report Delete

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>>16391985
did OP say he was from california?

Furthermore, the statute doesn't matter so much as how the courts are interpreting "affirmative consent". It specifically says that a "lack of resistance" is not sufficient. However, it doesn't say that affirmative consent cannot be inferred from action, just like under the old laws. The fact that she spooned him, took off her undies, told him to get a condom etc. could all be taken as evidence of affirmative consent.

The statute mentions alcohol, but only insofar as the defence of mistaken belief of consent. If anon is arguing that he had affirmative consent, he won't even be raising this defence.

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