As a teen even now I read articles in women's magazines just because I'm curious to see what the other 50% of the other sex thinks about the other in this current day and age. I read an article a whilst back I can't remember who wrote it, what it was published in or what its title even was but the general gist of it went something like "20 signs to know you should stay away from him". So naturally I thought fuck me this a gold mine and read all 20 or so but one of them has stuck with me all these years and it was "if he says he had a bad childhood run".... Now no matter where you live in the world there is always someone else who ha sit harder it will than you and so for the most part I don't complain and I live by that u have a job m, roof over my head love interests so I'm already part of the entitled bunch and I still consider myself lucky but as a victim of child abuse by the hands of my father and growing up around free spirit of a mum you know what I mean things were pretty fucked up for me and I'm surprised I turned out to be quiet a fucking functional human being despite the circumstances m. Anyway back to point it the article was telling women or reader to fuck off any man who's struggled with the early years of his life.... Now I can see validity in how the repercussions of all this mistreatment can damage a person and that said person may turn out dangerous and how they're pre-emptively trying to spearhead domestic violence but I can't wrap my head around how fucked up it is to tell others to run when their partner drops the childhood bomb and because of this I have lived my life hiding my past from potential partners because I don't want them to "run" even going so far as to never even bring friends over to my house when I was teen, neglecting to have birthdays parties because I dont want people to see my parents.

So is it ok to give advice like this and is it normal people's mentality to run when their partners opens up about this kind of stuff?