so I had an online bf for 4 years, this year I moved in with him. his habits of getting drunk, being smelly, devouring all the food, making messes and not cleaning them, and generally being autistic/uncaring is getting to me. I used to love him but now I don't feel anything. I try my best to be nice so thats why I haven't confronted him yet, but I have talked about the bad habits in hopes he'll change.

he sees that I'm visibly depressed and unhappy, but he still doesn't attempt to change. I feel like he doesn't care at all about me, and I have no idea why he wants me around.

I don't know what to do... I don't want to be demanding, I know one of the only things he likes in life is getting drunk, but I hate it when he's drunk. is that unfair of me? he gets so destructive and rowdy, and I prefer calm people.