>>16395238No, im feeling very peaceful and positive.
There's some things people don't understand, however.
Girls don't automatically sleep with any guy who prospects them for sex. Girls pull away from creepy bar guys that kiss them out of nowhere. Why? Because they have been told they have freedom to choose who they do and do not want based on their own criteria. It comes from themselves.
No one picks friends or lovers because of trying to be good for them. You don't hand your number out to every girl you meet do you? If a girl, you don't hand your number out to every guy, either.
When we choose a friend or a sexual encounter, we base our decision based on how they make us feel, not on the idea that we should serve them in order to be selfless. We sometimes sit through boring movies or thing we don't like in order to foster a friendship or sexual relationship, because we want that thing to continue.
When we first meet a friend or a possible sexual or relationship prospect, we don't know them at all. We have weeded out all the other people around us for either friendship or sex, and focused solely on this person of whom we know nothing. This should be self-evident by the fact of the existence of the many thousands of people you come in daily contact with without wanting to go bowling with or fuck.
We choose who we want in our lives based on our own desires and motivation. Without this motivation, we would not even try to speak to them.
It's just a fact that everything we do is motivated for our own gain. Give and take in relationships is the mechanism by which relationships are sustained more for our own benefit.
How could anyone break up when they stop "feeling it" for another person, if they were always thinking of the other person's feelings and didn't want to hurt them? They'd stay in that relationship for some faux-altruistic purpose even though they no longer have feelings for them. Relationships would never end if people were selfless.
