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To someone who you think you can laugh and genuinely enjoy yourself with.
My story:
>I was abstinent until 24 because, like you, had opportunities, but I always hoped my first would be someone special to me and decided to wait.
>When I was 23, I thought I finally met her... but things turned out not to work out, and I felt pretty crushed.
>So after a few months I basically rebounded. The next girl I went out with was pretty in to me and wanted it, so I just decided fuck it, and did. It was pretty terrible. Insanely empty feeling and superficial, and it left me thinking "That was it? That's what people murder, steal, and rape for?". I ended up with her again, and it was pretty exactly much the same.
>My second partner was a close friend (now best friend). We were both just pretty drunk one night, and just decided eh, fuck it. Once we started that, it just became a thing sometimes. Sex with her was better, but still always felt kind of rushed or almost clinical. I think she's attractive, and I like her as a friend, but she's someone i'd never considered dating (plus she's a lesbian).
>But my third partner... she was someone who I met and genuinely liked. She was the kind of person I felt like I could spend hours talking to about totally random things, and at the same whenever I'd catch her scent, made my head almost a little dizzy. We ended up having a one night stand, but it was the first time I genuinely enjoyed and had fun during sex. I remember smiling, making dumb jokes and laughing, and genuinely wanting to please her. The next morning when I woke up I had a grin on my face that didn't fade for hours.
In some ways, I guess i'm kind of glad my history went the way it did, because it right off the bat taught me how shitty the lows of sex can be, and made me appreciate the highs... But also that first time kind of fucked my sexual habits for a while and I'm still ironing out some kinks. Just pick someone you can say you actually like.
