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My parents want me to move back in due to the fact that they are having financial difficulties and could use my help. To me, it makes sense to throw in for the mortgage (I'll be inheriting the house when they're gone) instead of paying rent somewhere. Furthermore, I would be saving way more money if I did.>Free food >Save money >Help my family >Invest in my future property >I would likely be fucked as far as dating >Little privacy or alone time
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If you do decide to move back, I'd talk to your parents first and lay down some ground rules about what both you and them consider important.
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>>16395143 I've sort of talked to them about this a bit, and they're only really concerned about financial matters. As long as I contribute financially, I can do pretty much whatever I want. And I know they're not just saying that because my brother still lives at home and does nothing but smoke weed all day, and they're not giving him too much shit, even though he doesn't contribute. I'm kind of a homebody and not the type to party much, so I don't foresee major issues there.
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I did this w/ just my mom. I told her I'd do it if she was cool letting me have the house at least one day a week for girls. Worked perfect. Girls had no problem with my situation at all and I met my wife during this period of my life.
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>>16395244 How did you bring it up with the girls you dated? At what point and how did it come up? How did you explain the situation?
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>>16395281 I brought it up when it became relevant. first date or tenth date, just when ever it becomes an issue/a discussion point. I said that I had a nice place until x years ago(I was there for 3 years, for the record) and my mom asked for some financial help so I moved back in because I was single anyway. Never once had a girl think it was a bad thing - usually thought it was sweet that I was helping my mom out.
I usually made a point to invite them over reasonably early into the relationship when my mom would be away anyway and let them see that privacy wasn't a concern if we became a long-term thing. Again, I had a deal worked out that the house was mine x days of the week if I needed it.
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>>16395121 let's be honest, if you're 28 and don't have a girl already then you're probably not going to be doing that great.
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>>16395297 This seems like a good way to go about it; thank you for the advice.
>>16395368 I've had girlfriends and have been engaged before; I don't have trouble attracting girls.
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>>16395368 I think they call this, what was it? Oh yeah, the projecting
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>>16395368 >I'm a neckbeard, so everyone else is too Anonymous
>>16395368 BTFO
>>16395402 >>16395425 >>16395863 I was in a very similar situation to you OP. I'm 28 also. I moved back in with my mom after my dad got real sick (cancer) and ended up staying after he passed. It's been 3 years now. The house is paid for so I just pay the utilities and take care of maintenance and yard work. So my mom doesn't get in my way at all. I work full time so I come and go when I please on weekends. Since I've moved back I've only had one girlfriend that lasted for about a year. It was never an issue having her stay over. It was only as awkward as I wanted to think it was like when she'd stay the night. I mean we're adults, what else do we do? Your parents should be happy you're trying to find a girlfriend. Anyway, so I have lots of freedom and privacy but it's always been like that with my parents because I've worked since I was 15 and always had a job so my parents know/knew I wasn't fucking off with my life. Plus we talk all the time so if there's problems we work them out instead of passive aggressively tip toeing around it for days. So if you guys have good communication it you should be fine on your cons. I'm kinda just rambling now. Some people can make it work; living at home as an adult. Last thing though is that I've saved so much money it's unreal.
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>>16395956 Oh ya, my mother totally wants me to succeed romantically, and she's always been bro af. She would be the one to tell me that a certain girl was checking me out when I was a dumb teenager, and she never cared about me having girls over. Now, she's actually desperate for grandkids, so she'll have my back if I tell her it's for the sake of continued line and such.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
