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Hey guys, so I'm a bisexual dude dating a guy. I met him on a dating site when I was kind of desperate to get into a relationship, and I feel like I kind of rushed into one with him. At the start it was great, I was happy and so was he, he was also quite desperate, even more so than me honestly.
We've been dating for seven or eight months now, and recently I've started developing this looming feeling like I don't want to be with him anymore. I realize the obvious thing to do would be to simply break up with him, but I'm way too emotionally invested to bring myself to do that. When I'm with him, I actually enjoy being there. It's when I'm alone that I question what I'm even doing with him. He has pretty bad social anxiety, and he thinks that if I leave him, he may not be able to find anyone else ever again, which may actually be the truth. He seems to be very happy with me, he's even said that this is the happiest he's ever been in his life and that he dreams about me frequently.
To top it all off, he's doing a uni course on Japanese, and he'll be going to Japan to study there. He gets his last week in Japan as free time so we decided that I'd come during that period, and we've already bought the tickets. That isn't until February, and I defiantly wouldn't want to break up with him before then for obvious reasons.
All that being said, I really really DON'T want to break up with him. All I want is to be happy with him, and I like to think that it's possible. I just don't know how to go about making it happen. Ignoring the issue hasn't fixed it, so clearly I need to take some sort of action, I'm just at a loss as to what to do. I don't really want to talk to him about it because of his anxiety, if he knew how I really felt it would mess him up quite badly.
I'd really prefer to not break up with him.
We've been dating for seven or eight months now, and recently I've started developing this looming feeling like I don't want to be with him anymore. I realize the obvious thing to do would be to simply break up with him, but I'm way too emotionally invested to bring myself to do that. When I'm with him, I actually enjoy being there. It's when I'm alone that I question what I'm even doing with him. He has pretty bad social anxiety, and he thinks that if I leave him, he may not be able to find anyone else ever again, which may actually be the truth. He seems to be very happy with me, he's even said that this is the happiest he's ever been in his life and that he dreams about me frequently.
To top it all off, he's doing a uni course on Japanese, and he'll be going to Japan to study there. He gets his last week in Japan as free time so we decided that I'd come during that period, and we've already bought the tickets. That isn't until February, and I defiantly wouldn't want to break up with him before then for obvious reasons.
All that being said, I really really DON'T want to break up with him. All I want is to be happy with him, and I like to think that it's possible. I just don't know how to go about making it happen. Ignoring the issue hasn't fixed it, so clearly I need to take some sort of action, I'm just at a loss as to what to do. I don't really want to talk to him about it because of his anxiety, if he knew how I really felt it would mess him up quite badly.
I'd really prefer to not break up with him.
