/adv/ I'm ungrounded and need perspective.
I've fallen in love with a girl I work with.
She was flirting with me for a decent period of time, and I eventually started flirting back.
We got to talking at longer lengths, supporting each other through problems.
I finally broke down one night, and told her that I liked her, after she was explicitly making it obvious that she liked me.
It seemed to go well, she said that because of the both of us (seemingly) just having come from long term relationships, she wanted to start as friends.
This seemed great.
The next day or so, near the evening, I got a call from her. She told me she has a boyfriend. She said it's long-distance, and she's unhappy - that she thought I had a girlfriend and felt unfulfilled. She cried, and apologized, offered to quit working where we work, and said that she would understand if I didn't want to talk to her anymore. After this, she started thanking me for my friendship in an attempt to leave the conversation, and I said I get it, and tried my best to be understanding.
Problem is, she's now struggling with the problem of a choice, and I'm so damn infatuated I really feel dependent and hopeless - a feeling I'm really not used to.
We never kissed, nor held hands, nor anything else of that nature.
I'm struggling with a lot of thoughts right now, and a big one is one that my friend conveyed to me: "What's to say she's not going to do this to you." My belief is that I really saw her heart that night, and I know the pain she's experiencing, and it doesn't seem like she did anything really wrong. I really do care about her, and want to be with her - she has shown herself to be very caring and beautiful about the whole situation: so I think it's obvious: if she picks me, great: happiness abounds and I need to let those thoughts go and just focus on what's actually there rather than playing games and worrying about something that is so obviously external to her character. (CONT'D)