Had a 3 month fling with a girl in my social circle. First month everything cool, second and third red flags started coming out more and more so I held off on taking it seriously. Personality changes when with different girls, like a chameleon, some cluster B going on with intimacy and abandonment issues I picked up on. Told me about her past LTR's of how the guy dumped her for X reason, but as I thought about it more, it was likely her.

Right before we snowballed, she got more affectionate than the whole time together, told me that she liked me a lot and I said I liked spending time with her too. She goes on holiday for a week and comes back all distant like she's guilty of whatever. I back off and later say, hey what's going on here. She: "I don't want a relationship right now" ok, so not with me. I said we should just be friends.

Now it's still a bit weird since I have to see her every so often. Do I just treat like her like before the fling? Indifferent?

I've noticed that another guy, who's mutual friends with her best friend whom I can't stand, that tried to undermine me when me and the girl were together, has been wanting to hang out with those two more often. Now, I don't care, but he tries too hard around me, like seeking my acceptance, other times he's just loud, obnoxious until I call it out. It's annoying

Maybe I just need to find a different social group and divvy up my time??