>>16401584To forgive is to not hold a transgression against a person.
No. You can forgive, and not forget what someone did. Just because you cancel a man's debt, that doesn't mean you have to give him another loan.
Forgiveness is a hard thing to practice. It's easy to hold onto anger, because the first thing you, and others, will probably think is that you're weak if you forgive someone, or that you're just a pushover. You have to be able to let go of anger, and think logically of how to solve your problem. Your girlfriend cheat on you? End the relationship. Don't be vindictive. Do not put that person beneath you. Do not make the person indebted to you. Let go of them. Focus on getting your life back on track. The bigger the transgression, the harder it is to do this.
I personally believe in the power of forgiveness, more for your own sake than the other person's. Even if you get royally fucked over by someone, it really isn't beneficial to you to hold a grudge, or go out of your way to make someone's life worse.
