I'm a 19 year old girl, virgin. At a meetup about 3 weeks at one of the drinking/hooliganism grounds in my area (the local park) I met a guy, (x) through another guy, (y). I got along with (x) really well that night, we had some alcohol, and we ended up making out for the majority of the night. I ended up speaking again with (x) the next day and he asked me to go for a coffee, I couldn't go but I saw him later that evening at a party, nothing sexual happened but it was still cool.

Then the day after he suddenly stopped texting me like he did those past couple of days, went a bit distant. I texted him asking if his invitation for the coffee was still on table, and he said something along the lines of "yeah of course bring your friend (z) or whoever and we'll have a coffee, no problem" (loose translation from my language). I got very mad, I understood it as him flaking out on me and not really wanting to, so I just sent him a "k" and we hadn't spoken since then.

Fast forward to yesterday. For some unknown reason (y) had decided to bring (x) along to one of my lectures, and all those feelings came rushing back. Later that night I messaged (x) a simple smiley, expecting nothing in return or cold behavior. But he ended up replying and I got good vibes, a bunch of smileys and all that... at least for the first few messages. And then he started shrugging me off again and being distant.

I just want to talk to him. I'm very fragile, I don't ever do "hookups" like I did with him, so when it happened it meant something to me. The way he treated me between the night at the park and the night after made me think that maybe we could keep things moving along. He doesn't seem like the type to just use a person, but I really don't know. I'm scared of looking desperate, I'm scared of seeming like I'm begging for his attention, but I miss him. Maybe I messed things up because I misunderstood his message from a month ago? I just don't know what to do.