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Something is wrong with me

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 21:54:02 No.16403228 View Reply Report Delete

Whenever I meet someone its so easy for me to think they are awesome until I get to know them and realize they are full of shit. This happens with everybody and especially women.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 21:54:32 No.16403230 Report Delete

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I see a woman for the first time? I find her very attractive and I would do anything to fuck her. As soon as I get to know her and notice her flaws I become less and less attracted. I am talking about both personality and physical flaws. I can only enjoy sex with strangers and that is not more than once. After I get to know someone for too long I see too much of them to like them. For example, if I have sex with a girl today, I barely want to see her again. Regardless of how much effort/time it took me to get to the sex (Even if I knew her 1 month before hand)

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 21:55:47 No.16403232 Report Delete

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I think I use sex as confidence boost which over the years I had a great problem with. Whenever I tried to make an emotional bridge recently it failed. I was seen as weaker for maybe rushing things and trying to experience these butterflies in my stomach.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 21:58:19 No.16403241 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16403318

My last relationship was also my first one and lasted for almost 4 years. It scared me, I was deeply in love with this girl and due to my what I can admit was oversensitivity and my different way of thinking about our relationship than her we broke up (yet still friends and have sex sometimes). But at that time I thought we were one and indivisible that we should support each other and trust. However trust was long time ago gone with each other and we were just trying to make that mess work. I felt betrayed by her many times.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 22:00:11 No.16403244 Report Delete

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I currently moved into a new city and I have no friends, no way of making new friends and no time of making new friends. I go to work and the people there are all married and are in a different situation than me. I live in a very expensive area because thats where my work is. My neighborhood is filled with $$$$ brands and very old people (Louis Vuitton and Gucci is down the street from where I live). I just got a new job that pays 6 figures annually and I just finished college. I have no loans no obligations, life is really great for me.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 22:02:23 No.16403252 Report Delete

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I don't feel any sad or depressed I am quite happy with myself I just have too many flaws that I work with constantly and I am always improving. My motivation of sharing my thoughts with you guys is to get to see what your opinion and harshest judgment on me is.

Tenesque

Tenesque Wed 28 Oct 2015 22:21:45 No.16403318 Report Delete

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>>16403241
But how did she betray you

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 22:31:56 No.16403347 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16403383

1. There is nothing wrong with you. Ditch the shame hun.

2. You have the capacity to be forgiving of flaws. You say you do so with yourself. Why do you think it is you have so much difficulty showing others that same regard? Why can you be understanding and tolerant with yourself but not with others? Find out what's motivating that.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 22:35:27 No.16403358 Report Delete

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>>16403228
That's because everybody is actually like that.

If anything, the strange part is that you start out thinking that each new person is great.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 22:41:47 No.16403383 Report Delete

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>>16403318
>But how did she betray you

She was hiding me from her parents (they never knew we were dating), cancelled on our vacation plans a couple of times, she ditched me multiple times for various reasons for different events. She didn't help me when I needed her help and many more things. I dont want to bore you with details of a 4 year relationship.

>>16403347

I don't think I am forgiving on my flaws I spent a lot of time and effort correcting them. I go to the gym 1 hour min every day. I try to learn as many new things as possible, fix my posture, the way I talk, the phrases I use, face my fears, make money etc etc. I never been forgiving on my self so I don't see how I could be with someone else. Only person I did reach that level was my ex girlfriend but I think that was a way for me to hide behind my flaws.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 22:43:14 No.16403384 Report Delete

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>>16403358
Yeah I am aware of that, I am actually so excited to meet a new person and talk to them and get to know them that after a bit I just end up not giving a fuck about them, because I think I just understand too much about them and they bore me.

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