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Quoted By: >>16404044
Not sure if you guys have relationship generals but I couldn't find one in the catalog so I guess this'll be its own thread.
I'm 23, I've been dating a girl for about five months now. She's 20. She's very inexperienced with relationships (she's only kissed a few guys and I took her virginity)
We had our first "fight" on Monday. It was my fault--she asked me to look over a paper she was working on and I was less constructive and more blunt and critical than I probably should have been. I apologized ten minutes or so after the incident, citing intoxication as the main reason for being so belligerent. She said I was a jerk but that she knew I wasn't trying to make her feel stupid and that we were all good. Everything seemed okay, she spent the night at my place, like most nights lately.
The next morning she had to wake up before me for class. I got up to say see you later and stuff but she seemed really distant. I let her go like that and didn't make the connection to her being upset the night before.
So tuesday goes by and I don't hear from her at all, which isn't uncommon and doesn't normally bother me, but I couldn't help feeling something was wrong given the morning's awkwardness.
Today I went to our shared class and she was the same way--so I went by her place after school to figure out what was going on.
She told me she was still upset about the night before. She'd thought she was okay with it but decided she didn't like how I'd treated her, which I understand. She told me it reminded her of how growing up her parents would always belittle her and talk down to her. That made me feel pretty shitty because I know exactly what she's talking about, my parents were the same way.
I apologized again and told her I'm working on being less critical and judgemental--didn't really know what else to say. So we made up and we were making out on her bed when she sort of casually mentioned that she didn't want to see me for the next couple of days. Fin. in comments.
I'm 23, I've been dating a girl for about five months now. She's 20. She's very inexperienced with relationships (she's only kissed a few guys and I took her virginity)
We had our first "fight" on Monday. It was my fault--she asked me to look over a paper she was working on and I was less constructive and more blunt and critical than I probably should have been. I apologized ten minutes or so after the incident, citing intoxication as the main reason for being so belligerent. She said I was a jerk but that she knew I wasn't trying to make her feel stupid and that we were all good. Everything seemed okay, she spent the night at my place, like most nights lately.
The next morning she had to wake up before me for class. I got up to say see you later and stuff but she seemed really distant. I let her go like that and didn't make the connection to her being upset the night before.
So tuesday goes by and I don't hear from her at all, which isn't uncommon and doesn't normally bother me, but I couldn't help feeling something was wrong given the morning's awkwardness.
Today I went to our shared class and she was the same way--so I went by her place after school to figure out what was going on.
She told me she was still upset about the night before. She'd thought she was okay with it but decided she didn't like how I'd treated her, which I understand. She told me it reminded her of how growing up her parents would always belittle her and talk down to her. That made me feel pretty shitty because I know exactly what she's talking about, my parents were the same way.
I apologized again and told her I'm working on being less critical and judgemental--didn't really know what else to say. So we made up and we were making out on her bed when she sort of casually mentioned that she didn't want to see me for the next couple of days. Fin. in comments.
