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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 01:58:39 No.16407467 View Reply Report Delete

I'm depressed, drunk, and lonely.

I called off work today and plan on doing it again tomorrow.

What should I do?

I have no more friends to talk to and I do not want friends honestly.

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:07:07 No.16407484 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407493

>>16407467
You say you're lonely and have no one to talk to, yet you then say you don't want any friends.

It sounds like a part of you wants friends, but you might either want better friends than the ones you've had or not very many friends.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:10:34 No.16407493 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407504

>>16407484
I've had some awesome normal friends who have never screwed me over.

I had two good friends that I talked to on skype normally but they don't talk to me anymore. Those were probably the best friends who have ever "gotten" me if that makes sense.

I don't know what I want, I have no problems with making friends, but I normally avoid those friends I make after a certain amount of time.

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:13:34 No.16407504 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407527

>>16407493
Why do you start avoiding them after a certain amount of time? Do they do anything to make you start avoiding them? Do you do or think anything that makes you start avoiding them? Did this happen with the awesome normal friends that never screwed you over?

What you said about the two friends getting you makes perfect sense. How come they don't talk to you anymore?

Oi oi, figuring out what we want in life is tricky, especially if we're at a low point in our life. But its worth experimenting in life to figure out what you do actually want. Its the only way to figure it out, really.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:23:34 No.16407525 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407530

>>16407467
Become a volunteer and move to Africa e.g.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:24:12 No.16407527 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407540

>>16407504
>Why do you start avoiding them after a certain amount of time?

I feel embarrassed to have them get close to me it feels like. I look at how people interact and it looks awkward and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. Even with those two friends I had, but it was worth it as I loved our conversations we had. I can't have conversations like that with most people.

>Did this happen with the awesome normal friends that never screwed you over?
I had the urge to end the friendship but didn't.

>How come they don't talk to you anymore?
My one Canadian friend blocked me on skype randomly (possibly because of my alcoholism) and my French buddy joined the army, and that was that.

I look forward to the point where things get better and I have a set routine and less chaos and anxiety in my life.

I just want to better myself and be reasonably happy no matter what my life is like. Even though it sucks this period of light solitude is nice

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:25:23 No.16407530 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407545

>>16407525
I have a son and can't do that. I must take care of him, and play with him from time to time.

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:28:52 No.16407540 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407555 >>16407556

>>16407527
>I feel embarrassed to have them get close to me it feels like.
Why do you feel embarrassed to get close to them? Do you have trouble showing affection? Growing close to a friend is a huge part of the friendship and should be a good part, not a part you feel embarrassed about.

>I had the urge to end the friendship but didn't.
Was that urge because you grew close to them or some other reason?

>I just want to better myself and be reasonably happy no matter what my life is like.
See, goals like this are good. it gives you something to work towards. If you want to be happy, tie it to a goal. Make it measurable.
Ex: It makes me happy to do art, therefore I will do more art.

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:30:22 No.16407545 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407556

>>16407530
>I must take care of him, and play with him from time to time.
Well, you make it sound like he's a problem xD

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:33:58 No.16407555 Report Delete

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>>16407540
Dunno why this sent twice. Sorry about that.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:35:21 No.16407556 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407565

>>16407540
>Why do you feel embarrassed to get close to them? Do you have trouble showing affection?

I think it is the affection I am not very good at closeness.

>Was that urge because you grew close to them or some other reason?

Just the closeness made it awkward, but other than that it was perfect imo. These were the coolest people I was ever lucky enough to meet on the internet.

>>16407545
He's fun it's my pleasure to be around him. He's hilarious, and qt as hell blurry pic related

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:40:14 No.16407565 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407570

>>16407556
What about getting close to people makes you feel awkward?

Also 10/10 your son is adorable

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:44:30 No.16407570 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407576 >>16407605

>>16407565
It just looks embarrassing to be close to people. I really don't understand. It may be the emotional aspect of it. When I was a child my family would make fun of me for crying or showing certain emotions and what not, and when I think back on it I cringe really hard.

Maybe it's that? I'm thinking about getting talking to a therapist soon about these things, I think they'd probably have a better outside view about this stuff. I may be meeting something.

Also thank you sir, he looks cuter than me, but he still has a lot of my features. Dunno how that works. Me and his moms genes mixed well I guess.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:45:55 No.16407576 Report Delete

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>>16407570
Missing something*

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:57:39 No.16407605 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407612

>>16407570
>When I was a child my family would make fun of me for crying or showing certain emotions and what not, and when I think back on it I cringe really hard.
It can most definitely be that. At a young age, what we get from our parents and the people around us (mostly our parents), molds us into the person we become. If your parents or other close adult figures in your life make fun of you for doing a certain thing, odds are you'll grow up not wanting to do that thing and anything surrounding that thing.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing a therapist and I recommend it. Not because I think you're crazy or have issues, but it's always great to have an objective view of things like that in your life to help steer you in the right track. I can guarantee you a qualified therapist will help you more than me or anyone else on this board xD

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 03:00:36 No.16407612 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>16407630

>>16407605
Appreciate it appleさん

Take care, appreciated the back and forth.

Apple

Apple Fri 30 Oct 2015 03:08:08 No.16407630 Report Delete

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>>16407612
Anytime, Anon. You take care and the best of luck to you in your future endeavors.

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