A week ago my unit (army guard) left on a field training exercise. Was normal enough, until I got a text from my girl of 2+ years- "I'm sorry; I think I'm starting to have feelings for someone else. I still love you, but I need to leave."

Sunday evening I come back and she explains it all. She said I didn't give enough, took her for granted, that she felt obligated to take care of me, which isn't untrue - between my civilian job and other personal factors, I've been depressed for months. She says she met this guy at a party two weeks ago, and while they haven't done anything other than talk, he makes her feel beautiful.

She packed her bags and left. It shocked the hell out of me because, in my heart, I know I love this woman with all that I am, and I didn't know she wasn't getting enough. I've spent every moment since then thinking of ways I could show her I really do love her more than anything.

She agreed to a Sunday brunch a few days ago, and I've done everything I can to make it perfect; got a florist with her favorite flowers, her favorite bakery making custom pastries (she likes bears and bees; they're making them look like bear faces and beehives), her favorite spot in the city arboretum reserved, an order with her favorite restaurant, and the most heartfelt letter I can muster.

Since Tuesday though, she won't talk to me. I know she hasn't got with this other guy yet, but it's so painful that after two years she leaves and doesn't let me try to fix it.

Please give me ideas or suggestions; I'm here because I don't know what else I can do...