>>8683156hahah don't worry anon, I feel you. I'm actually shy af, in high school I'd always hide behind my best friend and let him do all the talking because I was so shy with new people. I kind of still am.
Uh, well I got to college after a pretty shitty hs experience and was like "my whole life I've dreamed of making very good friends and now is my chance." So I kind of just forced myself to be confident and talk to people. You'd be surprised how nice people can be and willing to just talk about shit.
Also, it really helps how you dress. How you dress is kind of a reflection of how you feel about yourself. If you're just wearing unflattering graphic T's or pajama pants and frumpy pants, you just come off kind of blah and you feel blah. Dress cute, you instantly feel cute. Tress tough, you feel tough. Same with how you walk, throw ur shoulders back and walk with your head up and it's like BAM instand confidence and people move out of your way.
I was also fed up with people walking over me and treating me like shit, so at a certain point I wound up telling some kid to fuck off in front of people. And it just spiraled into me calling people out for being a dick and not dancing around the issue. I guess the way I held myself was like I was always ready to fight, like physically fight people. So I wound up with a good few dudes being legitimately afraid of me? Even though all I ever wore were sundresses and pastel sweaters lol.
An odd side effect of all of this was I never realized how much people are willing to try to placate eachother or sweep issues that need to be addressed under the rug rather than just flat out admitting what is wrong and dealing with it up front.
