>>859721That's a hard thing. it should be consensual, do not force her doing it, when she is absolutely not ready.
Personal limits can change after some time, but the harder these limits are the more time it will take to turn them into soft limits and eventually turn them into a no-limit. And some limits will never get softer and are permanent.
So be careful, take all the small steps it needs, build up lots of trust and don't push her too hard.
Every few times you play, move her a very little step further to her limits.
TL;DR: take lots of time, build up trust, be careful