>>14251965Wouldn't most people on /jp/ do the same given the opportunity?
>>14252088It really depends on what your goal is. If you just want to get the one Japanese girlfriend, and you don't care about the strength of the relationship or being able to communicate in a proper way, then sure, messing around is not a huge deal. I know tons of people who have gone to Japan and got a girlfriend without even knowing the slightest bit of Japanese, just due to pure perseverance.
One of my friends married a Japanese girl. He probably knows more Japanese than the people on /jp/ do on average, and they fight all the time due to language issues.
So, here's the problem. There's a lot of talking subtle between the lines in Japanese, multitudes of times more than in most Western languages. If you want to have a fulfilling relationship, or if you want to be extremely good at talking to girls, you're going to have to be able to understand any given love-romance drama at a near perfect level. I mean think about this. If you can't even get to the level to make cheesy attempts to hit on someone, how are you going to get good at it, or how are you going to be better than the next guy over? How are you going to get that one girl you really want? Sure, some people get lucky, but the last number I heard floating around is that something like 70-80% of "kokusaikekkon" or marriages to foreigners end in failure. There's a reason for that.
For me, the original question I tried to answer was "how do you get good enough at Japanese to find a new girl every week?" And if you think about it, take your average girl 18-25, even in the US. Are a lot of them superficial? Are they going to expect you to know pop culture? Are they going to put up with some guy who messes up every sentence or sounds "weeb"?
Either way, personally, and again, this is just my opinion, I don't really believe most Japanese people are going to be ecstatic or think they're having a good, decent conversation with someone who can't understand a basic romance drama. Maybe having fun talking, or happy they get to talk to someone abroad, sure. Of course. But do they think they're having a really good, in-depth conversation? Can they say to themselves, "this person truly gets me"? I really doubt it.
