>>5124353Sure, it's really difficult making friends at sports and clubs and etc, but you get a change of environment, something to do, people that know nothing about you, whom you can interact on a simple level. Stuff like how are you, see you, what did you think about this exercise, how come you're interested in this etc.
When I started taking dance classes, it was after years of hesitation. After the first time I cried my eyes out the moment I came home until I fell asleep without even changing clothes, because those blonde, thin, 11-year old-looking girls were the exact reason I never took classes as a kid. It was like reverting 12 years both mentally and physically. Everyone seemed to master everything already and I was that clumsy, chubby brunette kid again.
Next week I had practiced and to my surprise, the 11-year olds seemed to have aged 2-3 years (this was a 13+ class), and some my age were there. Suddenly I was doing pretty ok, and the others were making mistakes too. After a few more times I noticed others who were as shy and nervous as I, and not only those "always go first, always stay in front" girls.
Fine, I don't talk a lot to anyone (no one does), but we say hi and "I don't get anything of this", and for me, who hasn't made any friends whom I talk to outside class in 4 years of uni, it feels great. It's a place where it's ok for me to exist.
A bit derailing, but I just want to say, even if you don't make "friends", group activities break isolation, and if you're truly lonely, it's the first step in a long stairway to "socially normal"
