>>5137456I once was like that too, almost gave up on being a trans because it "hurt too much"
When dealing with irreversible loss you can do either of these two things:
1. Avoid the lost object, and anything that reminds you of it;try to forget
2. Keep thinking/striving regardless; even if it hurts; even if you will never have it
Ultimately, I chose the second option. This pain is sweet to me. My desires keep me alive, even if I most likely will never attain them.