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Annicole !!d5Msn/41Mfq Wed 28 Oct 2015 17:37:37 No.5141815 View Reply Report Delete

This is the Trans Help General thread. We'll try to help you here with everything related to being transgender.
This includes questioning, appearance, daily trans problems, medical info, general info and other interesting stuff to name a few.

MTF, FTM and questioning people are all welcome here to help eachother and discuss possible solutions.

You can also share your transgender related stories here. Just came out? Or you just need to get something off your chest?
Maybe something wonderful happened today! We'll be glad to hear it, it's always good to know we're not going through this alone.

Links:
Articles, Studies and General information about Questioning, Transitioning and other stuff: http://pastebin.com/CyW1dXV8
Lots of useful links about/for transgender people: http://pastebin.com/h1vLPxyV
Transgender FAQ: http://pastebin.com/8QbKyShU
Am i trans/ trans help threads archive:
http://archive.loveisover.me/lgbt/search/text/trans%20help%20general%20%23/username/annicole/type/op/

Therapists: http://www.t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_by_region
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
sort by transsexual issues

What will hormones do?
mtf: http://imgur.com/lDBLSVR
ftm: http://imgur.com/HqTqvJg

Previous thread: >>5091964

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 19:29:16 No.5142426 Report Delete

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first for /r/ing cure for severe AGP

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 19:55:17 No.5142616 Report Delete

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Are there any gender therapists in or around Houston that's recommended? Sorry if this is dumb to ask. I recently came out and received support from my mom and she's willing to help me transition.

I just don't know who to go to, especially since Houston is a little scary and that's the closest place that I heard has gender therapists.

Anonymous

Anonymous Wed 28 Oct 2015 20:23:06 No.5142750 Report Delete

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>>5141815
Hypothetically is it possible to travel abroad for surgery say for example the US for FFS and pay out the pocket for said surgery whilst not presenting as female full time?

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Shell !!tbcOKYZGAZG Wed 28 Oct 2015 23:48:12 No.5143582 Report Delete

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>>5142750
Yes, ffs is considered cosmetic so you dont have to be full time or get psych evaluations like for srs.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 01:08:25 No.5143762 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5144021 >>5144174

I recently told my friends that i wanted hrt mtf, and they are supporting me, though i dont want to be a fulltime girl i still wanna be me and act the same but with a body that i can accept living in. Do i even get hrt if i tell thos to a therapist?

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 03:02:40 No.5144021 Report Delete

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>>5143762
The therapistist will want you to live as your desired gender eventually. Lie if needed if you need more time to adjust to fulltime.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 04:45:43 No.5144174 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5144382 >>5144579

>>5143762
if you're in the US informed consent is an option which doesn't have any requirements as far as i know.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 05:21:27 No.5144231 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5144410 >>5145263 >>5149019

Hi, I transitioned at 16 I look very good, and am very femme. I'm 22 now, but I have a bit of a problem I don't know if this makes me an awful person but I really can't stand other trans people. I don't know what's wrong with me! I allways identified as female, not trans. I guess when I hear people mention they are trans I don't like that. I feel like such a horrible person.

Is this common? This is the first time I've interacted with the lgbt community, except for when I have been at the gender identity clinic.

Does this make me a bad person? Should I see a therapist?

S

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 06:46:19 No.5144382 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5144814 >>5144820

>>5144174
I live in norway so i dont know how it is here but i know i will get everything for free, when i am going to talk to the therapist ill just say something like i dont wanna loose my job family and friends so ill keep my old identity, would that really be so horrible?

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 06:53:41 No.5144410 Report Delete

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>>5144231
Well, yeah, you shouldn't hate trans people. And considering you are one, it can't be healthy for yourself.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 08:13:34 No.5144579 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5144814 >>5144820

>>5144174
Seems like i have to qualify hard in norway to get this treatment i have to have the mentall illness of "transexualism" wich just makes me feel like there something wrong with my head wtf.. also we have no gender phyciatrist only normal ones who dosent really know what it is... wtf norway wtf

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 09:37:05 No.5144724 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5146586

I had my 1st appointment at Nottingham GIC yesterday.
It went OK, I didn't clam up or break down, which is nice. They were all very friendly, as you would hope.
I spent an hour going over some very basic stuff with the psychiatrist. Was my childhood OK, who knows, what have I done so far, what do I want to do.
They are doing literally nothing about anything until 6 month's time, after another 2 appointments; one more with a doctor and then another with the doctor and shrink together. Then they might be prepared to prescribe HRT (I'm already DIY) and/or refer to a vocal coach IF I have already gone full time, and not before.
So, I guess I waited 9 months for precisely nothing. Go private, kids.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 10:21:07 No.5144806 Report Delete

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>>5143582
That's reassuring, thanks, do you know of any reputable surgeons and their price brackets? Just for research

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 10:25:01 No.5144814 Report Delete

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>>5144382
>>5144579
I had to split my post in parts.
I'm Norwegian as well, Anon. First stop acting like a child.

Anyways in Norway, they will want you to transition to the correct gender. If you will not accept that, they will not give you a diagnosis. That does not changing yourself as a person, you silly. You'll still be you, just with a girly body and looks(and a bit different mindset too, but if you're really trans you will like it.), eventually. Understand and accept the fact you're transgender, that you're actually really supposed to be a girl. You would not feel this way if you weren't trans.
You have to prepare yourself to the fact you may lose friends and your job, but depending where in Norway you are, especially in a decent large city, everyone is very open minded. I came out fine and was accepted by everyone that matters.
Also understand you do not have to come out the closet and transition at the same time. You can be patient, but there's some issues to that in Norway I'll explain later.

They don't call it a mental illness in Norway you idiot. It's a condition at worst, but it needs to be treated or else it can develop multitude of issues for a person. Everywhere in the world they diagnose transgenderism, transsexualism or whatever term they use, it all means the same. Which then follows by the same treatment.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 10:29:10 No.5144820 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5145119

>>5144382
>>5144579
Part 2/2
Anyways, the process in Norway goes as follows: First you want to tell your family doctor about this, and ask to be referred to a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist who can refer you to the GID clinic. (You can also just go to a private psychologist/etc directly.) When you see your psychologist/psychiatrist they will spend a few sessions learning about you to be able to assess why you should be referred to the GID clinic in Oslo. There is a wait list, but once it's your turn, the following year you will have to travel to their GID clinic in Oslo for each session they will spend with you to determine whether you are trans or not. Once you've gotten your diagnosis, you get your HRT, but they will ask you to start living as a girl as early as possible at that point, as a "real life test". It's pretty shitty, but you have to accept it. After a year as living as a woman/girl, and provided you're over 18, you apply to get both SRS and breast augmentation covered. They do also offer touch-ups once you're post op to take care of aesthetics. All for free. I think you researched some of this though, but I thought it'd help hearing it from someone else.
Also electrolysis for facial hair can be covered.
Also it's well known that the transgender care in Norway is poor. https://www.regjeringen.no/no/dokumenter/rett-til-rett-kjonn---helse-til-alle-kjonn/id2405266/ (it's a huge read, don't bother with reading it all, but the first part of the PDF assesses the situation well.)
Also I should note self medding today is no longer possible as import out of border of any medication is illegal. (There have been cases of people getting their family doctors getting them HRT though.)

Anyways this link will have a lot of information for you. http://www.hbrs.no/no/transseksualisme/ Don't be scared share resources with your family, doctor, friends as well, they may need it if they don't know much.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 12:40:29 No.5145119 Report Delete

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>>5144820
Thanks for all this info, i guess ive miss interpited the things i read or just assumed the worst still, i can choose to not get sergury right? Im 21 and im 100% sure i want to keep my penis. I ofcourse live in sunnmore in a small poulation of 7000, all my closes friends accepted it just told me to go for it. Do not know how to tell my mom and dad wich seems to me be the hardest part, ive seen here watch like shows about transexuals and im sure shes not the most openinded in the family, she found a candle and some lube and the she just assumed i where gay (i like women) and started nagging me about it alot. Sorry for any typos im at sea and using my phone :p

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 12:49:16 No.5145133 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5145183

question for FtM how do you make your breast smaller? will testosterone shrink them?

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 13:12:54 No.5145183 Report Delete

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>>5145133

As far as i know, testosterone only will do little.
I'm pre everything so i can just tell what i've read about. (Sorry for my english, it's not my mother tongue.) Anyway, to remove them completely you'll need a mastectomy.
If you are totally new to all this: most FtM's bind their chest. Recommended is a special binder. No tape or similar things.
Hope i could help. :)

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peach !lgZU9C0xSs Thu 29 Oct 2015 13:19:13 No.5145198 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5146766 >>5146904

I'm just not sure what to do any more. I feel like I'm sure of my transition something like 60% of the time, but then 40% of the time I feel like I'm making a mistake and that I'd be okay being an effeminate dude. I don't mind my current body, but I EXTREMELY fear for what the future will bring- my current body is very effeminate, and i'll look similar to pic related if I hit the gym hard (but not too hard), and I feel like I'd definitely be okay with a body like pic(s) related.
http://i.imgur.com/XcKLDLV.jpg
http://i.4cdn.org/lgbt/1446138494676.jpg
The thing is, I fear for what later life will give me. I have no idea how this kind of body ages and I will probably kill myself if I ever get anything like a "dad bod".
I'm incredibly conflicted with whether to transition or not, because I truly do wish I was a cis female, I just wonder if it's worth it.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 13:46:15 No.5145263 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5146022 >>5146655

>>5144231
I transitioned at 25 and don't look good. don't worry, i can't stand me either. nobody can, so that doesn't make you a bad person or horrible, it just makes you normal.

I mean, if this is really bothering you, you could go to therapy but thats on you

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 14:15:52 No.5145336 Report Delete

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I'm starting to get confused over my dose of both spiro and Progynova. Where should my blood levels be? I had a DHT of 270, so my doc said I should up my spiro to 250... figuring how he said my DHT is WAY too high, and since I have noticed no ill effects, I went all the way to 300mg daily and seem to do well.

I reckon that nukes my DHT to proper levels, but what about my E2? What should it be? Could someone post theirs that their docs claim is the right level?
Ranges go from like 50-300 or something crazy and going by that I'm definitely in the lower end. I feel I'm not seeing the results I should see, given it's been 18 months since I started...

Would I experience any detrimental effects if I up my E dose slightly, apart from the usual risks DVT etc.?

I find it disturbing you can not find desireable blood levels ANYWHERE. It's not even a thing on an individual base, every female is around certain levels, and argueably percieved beauty goes hand in hand with E2 levels.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 17:34:23 No.5146022 Report Delete

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>>5145263
i feel ya

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 19:54:00 No.5146586 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149566

>>5144724
That seems very harsh. Why did you have to wait so long? Anything to do with your GP?

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:09:09 No.5146655 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5146912 >>5149019

>>5145263
But people who dislike somebody based on their appearance, particularly disliking trans people, aren't good. That definitely makes them bad people. It's not okay or normal to do that.

You're justifying somebody's internalised transphobia based on your own unhealthy self-loathing.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:37:22 No.5146766 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5146904

>>5145198
I am having the same problem, or at the very least a similar one. I want to be a cis female. But I can't be. I'm just starting my transition but I'm really scared of turning into an old gross tranny as I age, and that it is safer to be an effeminate dude. Like, just being a twink isn't going to make my dysphoria go away, but I'm not sure how much better being trans really is like.... I dunno. I feel really scared about how uncertain things are.

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peach !lgZU9C0xSs Thu 29 Oct 2015 21:06:57 No.5146904 Report Delete

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>>5146766
>>5145198
Anons pls help us

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 21:08:39 No.5146912 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5147729

>>5146655
>But people who dislike somebody based on their appearance, particularly disliking trans people, aren't good. That definitely makes them bad people. It's not okay or normal to do that.
that's just, like, your opinion, man

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 00:20:36 No.5147638 Report Delete

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I have progynova that says it's micronized. I read that as long as it's micronized, you can take it sublingually. But, I read that you can't take progynova sublingually because you'll get mouth sores.
I have some sores on my lower palate now. But, I get canker sores somewhat frequently. But, I don't remember getting them in this spot before.

What do

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 00:25:36 No.5147659 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5147669 >>5147705

I suppose I have dysphoria, but I usually jerk it away. As in jerk off. As in I lay in bed trying to contact Satan and sensory deprive myself until I trip out and see demons and whatever. It's retarded. I set Halloween as a deadline, trying to sell my soul and shit.

How terrible is it to see a doc? Do they try to talk you out of it? How many personal questions do they ask? I was so close to ordering shit off of inhouse but they need a goddamn prescription now.

Also, is it possible to stealth transition? I guess just not shave and wear male clothes? Does that usually go awry? I guess it could work since HRT doesn't affect one's voice.

Final question ; Does HRT cause one to lose weight?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 00:28:16 No.5147669 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5147916

>>5147659
>hrt
>lose weight
ha

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 00:33:40 No.5147700 Report Delete

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Mtf pre hrt australian here. Feeling frustrated and let down by the system, how do i find a psych who can actually help me? I saw a psychiatrist for 8 years until the end of 2013. She told me i was too immature at 16 to 19 to make a decision about my gender. Saw a psychologist for 10 weeks in early 2014, he was supposed to be a gender specialist, every time i brought up gender he deflected. Current psychotherapist also keeps deflecting from the topic.

Living close enough to sydney to travel frequently and conveniently there. Starting to lose any hope of ever finding help.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 00:34:25 No.5147705 Report Delete

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>>5147659
>How terrible is it to see a doc?
Not at all.

>Do they try to talk you out of it?
No.

>How many personal questions do they ask?
Lots.

>I was so close to ordering shit off of inhouse but they need a goddamn prescription now.
QHI/ADC.

>Also, is it possible to stealth transition?
Yes, but only for so long until HRT shows. And you'll want to learn to have a female appearance, to apply makeup, to wear clothes that hide and show off the right features etc.
Hormones will push you into it sooner or later anyway.

> I guess just not shave and wear male clothes?
Nothing bad about shaving. You'll want to get that stuff lasered soon.

>Does that usually go awry?
If you show up like that to your therapist, yes. Else, who cares?

>Does HRT cause one to lose weight?
Opposite.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 00:40:01 No.5147719 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5150250

Ugghhh, I have a ton of questions.

1) Is anyone familiar with signing up for Obamacare/Medicade and mind giving me a breakdown of how to go about it?

2) I've got sparse, somewhat thin but dark facial hair. Is it possible/advisable to pluck it?

3) I'm trying to gain weight so I don't have boy body, but nothing seems to work. Has anyone else had this issue and found a way?

I probably have tons more, so if anyone wants to just talk on skype, reply with your s/n.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 00:43:25 No.5147729 Report Delete

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>>5146912
epic

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 01:34:41 No.5147916 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5147939

>>5147669
I wouldn't rule it out at all. When I started HRT my muscle mass dropped a ton. I used to weigh 150 and I fell to 125 before breasts even got noticeable. Maybe it just varies.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 01:44:14 No.5147939 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5147954

>>5147916
Fair enough. I was bony as fuck when I started HRT which is probably a bit different.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 01:50:43 No.5147954 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5147971 >>5147991

>>5147939
How did it work out for you? Being naturally very skinny are you able to put on fat nicely in the right spots? I ask because I pretty much don't get any fat either, and its hard for me to eat so much in a day to reach a positive calorie level. I feel like thats killing my progress.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 01:59:04 No.5147971 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5148018 >>5148045

>>5147954
I'm suffering from this so much. Definitely killing my progress and it's driving me nuts! I'm out of ideas and lately I started gagging whenever I eat more than a few bites of a meal.

Getting fat is literally one of my top 3 wishes right now.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:03:30 No.5147991 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5148018 >>5148039

>>5147954
I probably went over the top with the losing weight beforehand. I'm naturally skinny, but not that skinny. My fat distribution is... well, I'm not always happy with it, but I don't think anyone's always happy with it, cis or trans.

Sometimes I had difficulty with eating enough but that was because I'd been on a calorie deficit myself for so long that I basically didn't like *not* feeling hungry. Trail mix is a pretty solid option here, if you can get it cheaply. Lots of fats as well as carbs, high calorie density. I could have a pound of that over the course of a day, coming to 2000 calories, and still eat a meal or two.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:10:44 No.5148018 Report Delete

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>>5147971
see
>>5147991

Also, I'd get all aspie about it, and sort through to eat all the cashews first, then raisins, then peanuts, etc. saving chocolate chips for last. Focusing on my food in a way that wasn't inherently about eating it kind of made it easier.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:17:40 No.5148039 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5148045 >>5148058

>>5147991
>Trail mix
I always have a bag for "inbetween", but I can eat 1, maybe 2 palms full before I start to violently gag again. And from there it only gets worse unless I let it settle.

At best my food would be simply liquid, but I'm not sure how to pull that off...

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:20:28 No.5148045 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5148108

>>5147971
>>5148039
you just gotta slowly eat more and more. yes it's going to feel bad, but you have to suck it up just like fat people have to suck it up and eat less despite feeling bad.
drink more milk. drink lots of water to help stretch your stomach. go on fit and tell them you can't gain weight despite eating tons of food and they'll help you while making fun of you

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:26:40 No.5148058 Report Delete

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>>5148039
one piece at a time. slow and constant, basically.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 02:44:59 No.5148108 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5148242

>>5148045
I've been to /fit/ and got nothing but shit thrown at me. Well, one guy said go with pulses, but that's all I've got out of the shitstorm. Don't need that again.

My depressions are also extremely bad most of the time and then I just sleep 20h straight and to eat anything at all I need real easy food... Like, trail mix is alright for easy food, but cooking is just not gonna happen if I really wanna stick to it through any sorta depressions.

I've been trying to think up a 2.5kcal diet that works, but 1.6k is as far as I get before I need something real big cause else I'd eat small stuff literally every other hour and that just ain't gonna happen.

Just had a look at protein shakes but fuck they're expensive.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 03:33:46 No.5148242 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5148300

>>5148108
you could buy soylent I guess. but seriously if you really want to gain weight do GOMAD. lol it'd be kind of funny if you're not lifting. but you'll definitely gain weight.

fast food?

I found that lots of plain rice helped me get used to eating more. eventually I could down a kg cooked in one meal

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 04:03:47 No.5148300 Report Delete

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>>5148242
Haven't heard of GOMAD before, but I've got a weight gainer in my amazon basket right now. Might aswell... think that's really a good idea though? And what's soylent?
I was thinking I could go with fast food and my typical Burger King meal is about 1600kcal, add to that a pizza, yoghurt, banana, apple, sandwich and I'm looking at 3000 kcal, but then again, how healthy is eating Burger King daily for like 12 weeks or something...

I'm gonna take my time in the supermarket and see what sustainable big meals might be... probs gonna end up with tons of canned food.
But right now I'm starting to feel ill imagining Burger King for 12 weeks straight.

And I'm too damn anxious to go to the supermarket all the time, it's a fucking curse.
Every time it's a kinda situation where I'd actually consider taking a benzo before I go.

I wanna cry ;_;

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 10:27:17 No.5148968 Report Delete

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epilating or waxing?

which one is better and causes the least ingrown hairs, irritation, etc?

also can you do either on your back by yourself?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 10:45:55 No.5149014 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149096 >>5150408

Is is true that when you go through HRT (mtf) for a long period you NEED to do a genital surgery otherwise you'll probably get cancer?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 10:49:01 No.5149019 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149031 >>5149302

>>5146655

Hi sorry me >>5144231 I never said that I hate people, just I cant stand their company. Usually they only want to talk about trans related things etc or how unfair the world is. No way I have transphobia or anything, I'm mean im not scared of them, and that is what that word means right?

I just meant that their company is undesirable. I just find this comes up again and again every time I meet a transwoman they are doing the same faux pas the last one I met was doing. For example bright hair, inappropriate clothing etc. And underneath that what do they have? Next to no personality at all! There whole life seems to resvole around the word trans.

Maybe I've only met these kinds of "bad??" trans women, as I've never met anyone like myself.

S

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 10:53:04 No.5149031 Report Delete

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>>5149019
>I'm mean im not scared of them, and that is what that word means right?
no lol

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 11:11:39 No.5149096 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149120

>>5149014
Hm... i heard chemical castration for a long time is not good... but i don't want SRS, not now.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 11:16:34 No.5149120 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149128

>>5149096
Wouldn't removing the testicles be enough then?

Jennifer

Jennifer Fri 30 Oct 2015 11:18:12 No.5149128 Report Delete

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>>5149120
Dunno, but i don't want to remove either... that's even more disgusting (to me).

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 12:13:55 No.5149302 Report Delete

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>>5149019
Being uncomfortable around trans people because they remind you that you're trans or because you're jealous of them or something is pretty common for trans people, and it's understandable despite not being a good thing (it's also a spontaneous feeling rather than a conscious decision). What you're doing is just stereotyping. Different trans people are different, just like any other kind of person; just because you didn't like the few that you've met doesn't mean that they're all like that. How well have you even gotten to know these people before concluding that they have "next to no personality"?

There could be a lot of reasons for the trans people you know to excessively talk about transsexualism-related things with you; one of them being that they know you're trans and therefore empathise with them, and they don't have the opportunity to talk about it anywhere else. Also, if you've met them for the first time at a gender clinic (which is what your first post implied), then it's reasonable for them to use gender issues as a conversation topic since they know they have that in common with you, and they don't know anything else about you to broach any other topic very well.

The -phobia suffix isn't used to literally mean "fear" in the word "transphobia" (like it is in some other cases), just like how it isn't in the word "homophobia".

And stop signing off your posts on anonymous imageboard.

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:13:33 No.5149525 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149769

I kinda want to get my nails painted/get a manicure but I'm still pre-everything, so of course I'd have to show off my nails while still presenting as a guy.
Do you think I should get my nails done anyways, or no? What color should I get, like what would look least weird on a guy? I was thinking of getting either a french manicure or maybe a pale pink like pic-related, but I think that maybe that'd be too weird looking.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:15:54 No.5149536 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149559 >>5149657

Hey, gay guy here. I keep having this irrational fear of being a tranny and I don't know why. I don't want to be girl and I love my body but for some reason it keeps scaring me that I'll end up as a tranny because people tell me being twinky is being a tranny. I mean I like being a man so idk

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:21:31 No.5149559 Report Delete

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>>5149536
have you tried fucking off? that might help

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:23:19 No.5149566 Report Delete

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>>5146586
That's how long the wait is for Nottingham now, other GICs are even longer.

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:44:31 No.5149657 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5149701 >>5149735

>>5149536
>it keeps scaring me that I'll end up as a tranny
>I don't want to be girl and I love my body

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 13:55:23 No.5149701 Report Delete

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>>5149657
Idk its an irrational fear that I have and I don't know why, its existed before as other things like getting suspended in high school when there was no reason to be because someone had a slip for someone to the office, etc etc.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:08:46 No.5149735 Report Delete

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>>5149701
If your irrational fears are really bothering you then you can see a therapist about them, but otherwise see >>5149657

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 14:19:38 No.5149769 Report Delete

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>>5149525
It's your decision. So long as you don't have to interact with any assholes who'll attack, threaten, or otherwise bother you over it, it's not really a big deal; the worst that can happen is that you'll be awkwardly asked about it or get stared at. If that doesn't bother you then go for it.

Pale pink or a French manicure would look fine, and because they're relatively subtle are probably the better choices if it's your first time doing it.

If a person thinks a male painting their nails is weird, then they're going to think that regardless of what colour you paint them, so don't be concerned with them when choosing the colour.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:23:28 No.5149977 Report Delete

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>>5141815
what can i expect with hormones?

i've looked at the charts but i still don't have a feel for what actually changes.

i've seen a mtf friend of mine appear to become thicker. like they used to be less pudgy. she is about a 5/10. not old enough to be a hon.

can i expect to gain weight all over the body or is that more to do with genetics because currently all of my overweightness is in my abdomen. #beer gut

i'm not too concerned with breast growth. right now i use 44DD breast forms and they work for me. i don't anticipate my breasts to get anywhere near that size.

what i really am hopeful for is hips, ass and thighs. please tell me i'll get a fuller bottom with hormones. if i don't what are my options? the articles don't have any information of cosmetic implants for the butt. are implants a good idea or no?

i know you cant answer his question but i'll ask for my own benefit. will i grow to love my body? will hormones "work" for me? do they "work" for you all?

how do you all feel with your body? satisfied? that's all i want.

thank you.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:29:51 No.5150003 Report Delete

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>>5149977
My body is mostly the same as it was when I started. No I don't like it one bit.
Is this gonna change when I gain weight? I'm 5'8" and 117 lbs, so there's quite a lot to gain...
I'm hoping for hips and thighs myself :/
On the other hand my calves are too big... why did I not lose muscles?

Anonymous

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:39:01 No.5150046 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5150055 >>5150301 >>5150972

Can anyone tell me about how and when they realized they were trans? I'm pretty confused about all this stuff, and I'd like to know how other people dealt with this.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:46:10 No.5150055 Report Delete

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>>5150046
i've always been trans i just never knew until started reading webcomics that dealt with transgender issues. i played with the idea that i might be trans but it wasn't until i saw that it was actually possible with hormones and transition timelines, they were just so inspirational.

if i have to put a date on it it would be my 17th birthday. when i was 17 i had a major depressive something or other and basically had a breakdown and broke. i realized my life has been a lie and that i needed to take matters into my own hands.

i've been lazy since then and maybe i missed my opportunity to transition that young but atleast i had come out to myself.

now, i'm still dragging my foot and progress is slow but i'm coming along. hormones are just around the corner for me. maybe.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:54:01 No.5150090 Report Delete

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>>5150055
Thanks for the reply. I've been considering that I might be trans for the past 4 or so years, im just not sure if Its just agp or if I should even do anything about this.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 15:59:09 No.5150109 Report Delete

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>>5150090
my advice is just accept that you are not cis, it's ok to be whatever you are. i encourage you to do gril mode as much as possible. maybe you don't need to "transition" to be happy. love yourself and if you can't do what you have to in order to. get supportive people in your life and cut out the negativity. get involved and join/flow positive blogs.

basicly just be fabulous.

i believe in you.

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 16:04:27 No.5150128 Report Delete

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>>5150109
Thank you. That was really nice.
I'll keep your advice in mind.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 16:35:08 No.5150250 Report Delete

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>>5147719
1) no - google it
2) yes, plucking is what women do as well so you can do it. But if you want to get electrolysis I don't recommend plucking or epilating since it can make electrolysis less effective. You can shave though.
3) If you go on HRT you'll likely gain fat weight (and lose muscle mass)

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 16:45:23 No.5150301 Report Delete

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>>5150046
basically i just felt really ugly but super qt when i put on my sisters bra and panties. i would do that and then watch anime for hours and it just felt so good that i knew i was a woman

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 17:12:35 No.5150408 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5150719

>>5149014
Shameless self bump on this.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 18:36:25 No.5150719 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5151048

>>5150408
I don't see that would give you cancer.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:40:41 No.5150972 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5151037 >>5151148

>>5150046
>never felt like a man, never liked male responsibilities, always felt more comfortable among girls
>used to be a crybaby but the older I got, the more I got shut in (bullying didn't help)
>could never kiss/have sex because too uncomfortable with intimacy
>lived through videogames and music, felt distressed without them because I had no identity on my own
>always thought most men would rather have been women but just got used to it
>thought I was simply non-sexually attracted to girls when really I wish I looked like them
I started browsing /lgbt/ for the asexual board, then I got curious and saw all the mtfag threads, then I realized holy shit I can relate a lot to those people. I guess I was just too dense to realize earlier I should have been born a girl. Now it sucks because I'm in this half-denial half-acceptance phase where I've been a clueless guy for too long to just shake it off (I'm 21). Literally one day I read a post that validates my feelings and I get happy but anxious, the next day I read an anti-trans post that sends me back to my default apathic state. I'm in the process of writing my thoughs down to talk to a therapist when I feel confident enough.

The depression is real.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:54:56 No.5151037 Report Delete

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>>5150972
Actually sounds very much like how i've been.
I hope everything goes well with your therapy

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 19:56:43 No.5151048 Report Delete

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>>5150719
It doesn't make much sense right? I mean, the penis doesn't produce anything. Wouldn't the chemical castration be enough? Or in an extreme case, removing the testicles? I'm asking this 'cause I live in a 3rd world country and you know how cis people in the medical/beauty industry can be.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 20:01:20 No.5151066 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>5151087

How would one be able to tell if an individual was legit trans or a faker? Supposing they see themself as a failure in their life, and could be trying to escape that and become somebody different. Would it be possible to know?

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 20:05:20 No.5151087 Report Delete

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>>5151066
I hope so, thats what I'm worried about. I always though I could figure it out if I did some research and looked at different viewpoints on it, but i'm still just as confused as ever. I can't tell if im gay or bi or trans or just starved for attention.

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Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 20:13:58 No.5151148 Report Delete

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>>5150972
Good thing you're not one of those who need to be told to see a therapist, cause what the hell.

I can relate a lot to your story, and I've been 21 aswell back then. In fact my story is pretty much the very same. Didn't let myself get impressed by the anti trans posts though, but my apathy was more because I tried to tell myself nah I'm just a r9k beta fag and all of this is a normal phase to go through I'll man up and call some girl to hang out.

So, yeah, did that, had some fun, then over the weeks and months I noticed how it kept haunting me, tried to experiment with clothes and even latex and figured that's not really my thing but at the same time I noticed how I really much more felt like a girl. I was also childishly eager to be some special snowflake and be just an amazing girl all around, but oh boy did I dive head first into the worst nightmare ever.

Now my depressions are worse, I've grown an anxiety, lost my job cause it brought me into the psychiatry several times, am unable to work because of the anxiety and even going to the supermarket is a big pain. had a breakdown today after finishing my shopping and cried.
I've been over 2 years in supervision and still self-med to this day cause shrinks just refuse to be helpful, I'm good money either way.

I'm now also confronted with the likelihood that I'll become homeless sometime in 2016 but I priorize FFS cause else I'm just gonna end up killing myself anyway, so perhaps with FFS eventually happening and if I ever manage to speak my female voice, I could find me some small job to survive the time until SRS.

You're in for a ride. Good luck.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 30 Oct 2015 20:40:49 No.5151299 Report Delete

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>>5151148
Aww anon, I feel so sorry for you. How do you cope?

I always used music to channel my feelings, but lately it just doesn't work as well as it used to, I get moments of frustration when can't contain it and I want to beat the shit out of something while crying all the tears I can. I hate my lack of self-confidence and I hate other people because I've been away from people for too long and I'm obsessing over all the shit that's happening in the world because everyone just thinks about themselves.
I've always had anxiety, luckily it's not bad enough yet that it's affecting my job, I just tend to communicate less and to fear criticism.

Above anyting I wish I could have a genuine relationship, but that won't happen because I can't be myself. I don't even know what myself should be.

May I ask, did transition improve your mental health so far? In what way?

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