>>5149108They're different people. It's less that you don't like one as much as the other but more you like them both for different reasons. There's no real 'sync' because relationships and feelings towards people don't quite work that way when you get towards romantic stuff. Not quite as clear cut as levels. It's natural. It's OK. Try not to get too caught up in the idea of everything needing to be 'equal'. This'll probably wind up getting pretty artificial and it'll just make you begrudge it a bit. They're good friends that you're being romantic with, just spend time with them as it happens. Try not to think so much. That's my take anyway.
We all used to get really worried about spreading out the affection and 'syncing' and stuff but you find that if you like each other stuff will just sort of happen naturally the way it's meant to be, y'know? What you're going through is probably quite common.
As far as the second thing, I've had that with friends in the past. I think it's just sort of an introvert anxiety thing. It's hard to just stop and chill out but for what it's worth I think you should just try to take it easy.
>>5148910Oh man. Thanks. I was worried I was coming across like an asshole. Which I was to be fair. That anon didn't deserve that amount of choler. It's more just me being angry at a theme that pops up whenever poly people talk about their relationships and it drives me up the wall. So, yeah. Sorry guy.
