>>7303264Brace yourself, here comes the most self-obsessed post you've ever seen,
Thanks for the suggestion. Interestingly, I already do everything you mentioned in your post:
- I go to the gym 3 times a week, and have a pretty aesthetic body, although I'm not very strong.
-- It has helped a little and made me more confident but nothing like I thought it would. Most people can't see your abs in everyday life.
- I practise basketball 3 times a week and I'm co captain of my youth team.
-- I made many many friends thanks to sports, but it didn't make me any more socially smoother.
- Sometimes I'm amazed at how much I put myself out of my comfort zone in things I don't enjoy: I go out every weekend with rare exceptions, sometimes to clubs where I even try to dance while the alcohol buzz lasts, to parties of people I barely know, I hang out with classmates which I don't even know, just to meet new people.
- I'm currently reading the 7 habits of higly effective people, it was thanks to that book that I learnt about the one on the Original Post and Emotional Intelligence in general.
-- I think this has helped more than anything else. It puts you in the right paradigm, that it takes so little effort to be friendly and helpful when you consider the return you get.
Still, especially when meeting new people, I make all sorts of weird innapropriate comments just for the sake of saying something and I panic when I feel I'm not included in the conversation, I immediately feel like I'm inadequate and that people just naturally hate me.
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