>>7284403>using ancient fanfiction as evidence>>7284412An excellent study in excerpts from classical sources (that I own hardcopy). Basically, if you fell in love with a highborn or citizen youth, and fucked him in the ass, that was reason enough for blood feud. If you fell in love with the same youth, kissed him, jerked him off, and taught him everything you knew, you had a lifelong friend. The act of penetration on someone your social equal is badness, that is for slaves, women, and free prostitutes. Not only that, but the same youth was expected to go on to have a family of his own, if he became a flaming faggot he would be socially ostracized.
Anyways, I strongly recommend reading up on it. Even better is the apparent culture of young women who could only be married to 30+ year old men after a lifetime of being secluded hanging themselves as a sacrifice to Aphrodite.
Sexuality and Gender in the Classical World. Edited by Laura K. McClure, 19–33 (Malden, MA: Blackwell, 2002).
http://bookzz.org/s/?q=sexuality+and+gender+in+the+classical+world&t=0 
