>>7288759Bro that's a big mistake too. Just because you grew up in a happy house does not mean you magically have instincts necessary to make relationships successful.
For some reason I thought that was the case with my parents, and then I realized later that my parents don't know jack shit about relationships (as I will/have experience/d them) because they've been dating since they were teenagers and are essentially from Mars.
>your assertion...is completely baselessIt's currently baseless, yes, but I can certainly argue it:
If either person perceives themselves as the superior, then they feel they are "settling." This type of thinking quickly leads to a marginalization of the other person: they are a reminder of our unfinished success, of our incomplete conquest and our unfulfilled potential. We begin to ignore them or secretly despise them. When they ask a question that shows they are dumber then us, we treat them like children. (Men usually do this in the first half of a relationship. It will continue for some time but eventually the woman usually loses patience and gets tired of the subtle jabs and not being taken seriously as a person-with-thoughts whose bad days are equally as bad as yours. That's when they leave, and that's when they're not coming back.)
On the other hand, if we feel ourselves the inferior, we begin to become anxious. We wonder about our partner's motive: why did they pick us if there are better people? Will she leave me when she meets someone better? Does she need me to improve somehow? And we start needing extra attention and reminders that we're loved: we become clingy/needy/insecure. I think you can guess where this goes (essentially the same place as the latter scenario).
Finally, if they feel each other to be equal then they are mutually appreciative of each other. They listen patiently to each other's ideas. They are accepting of each other's faults because they feel they have an equal burden in the matter. They do not worry about "settling." They have no need to beg for kisses, gifts or blowjobs: they know these will come and they will come as spontaneous, genuine signs of good will rather than trinkets meant to balance a power struggle.
