>>25225951I'll be honest with you, I love my new girl because she's there for me. Because she's supported me in everything I've done and has been an unceasing font of reassurance and motivation. I worked a lot to help her come out of her shell and now she's completley and utterly devoted to me.
But I'm just not as crazy-in-love with her as I was with the other girl. Perhaps it's because I'm just not as wild and excited as I was in that initial relationship, that I poured everything I had into it only to get eventually spurned. I learned a lot, and I learned that love takes a lot of different forms, but it doesn't have to make you irrational or head-over-heels madly in love or such. I personally feel more mature and ready to face things in the world because I had that first experience with a poor relationship, and it serves as a measuring stick for what I want out of a relationship and how I feel I should act in that relationship.
And honestly, I think I lucked out. I managed to find a girl who is sweet, shy, supportive and trusts me. It's because I am utterly confident that she would never try to intentionally hurt me that I never feel the need to hurt her, and it forms a mutually-loving trust that has kept us going for three years now.
I love her and she loves me, but personality wise, I'm just not as much in love with her as I was with the first girl. But I have a big enough heart to allow more than one girl in.
>>25226007I may have started my current relationship only several months after the other one ended, but I haven't forgotten anything about the first girl, nor how I felt about her. I don't think I ever will. I love her, but I also love my new girl.
The important thing for me was realizing that I might always love that first girl, but I don't want to be in a relationship with her because it would only hurt me in the end. It's a shame, because if she didn't have her guilt, I would have stayed with her, but things don't always work that way.
