>>13889183Don't worry kid. It's a normal reaction when you're inexperienced, and as you get older it lessens,but its still there. You're just nervous about approaching a girl you like.
Love? That's a total different ballgame. If you were in love, REAL love, you wouldn't be nervous because her reaction to you wouldn't be important. Just that she is happy. Don't go all Disney and think that means sacrificing your own happiness for hers because it doesn't. The only thing someone who loves another worries about though is ultimately, "are they happy?" If you can honestly say that you are happy "SHE'S" happy, then its love. But, also note: Love is a worthless emotion. All the garbage you've been fed your whole life about "Love conquers all" and "Love wins the day"? That's bullshit. Love is a chemical reaction designed to propagate the species. It has an expiration date of about 4 or 5 years. Friendship? That lasts forever. You want to be with someone you honestly enjoy spending time with. Someone who if and when they get fat, you don't care 'cause they're just "THAT FUCKING COOL". Someone who, when you're 50 or 60 and ugly as fuck, you can still say "Ah hell, I'd fuck her anyways". You want someone that, most importantly accepts YOU as YOU and doesn't think you need to change anything other than what YOU think is wrong, or rather doesn't TRY to change you and takes you , as you are, pimples and all.
And be that kind of person to find that kind of person. Fuck the Disney shit. It doesn't happen. Happiness takes work and requires a lot of bullshit inbetween.
Is it love if you get "butterflies" and turn pale? No. Its the fear of rejection and the intense desire to express your interest. Totally normal, and never fully goes away. You fear the loss of "What if I did it differently?". But you WILL regret later on in life if you don't TRY.
So go for it kid. If it works, great. If not...the ocean is FULL of fish. You'll find the right one.
