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Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 19:54:40 No.23838875 View Reply Report Delete

Quoted By: >>23839484 >>23839551 >>23839568 >>23839581 >>23839714 >>23839737 >>23839793 >>23840001

How did you lose all your friends?

>Social anxiety develops during last years of high school
>Go to parties and get nervous and start drinking
>Drink to excess because I don't want to be the shy, withdrawn person I am
>Become life of the party
>Drink ridiculous amounts in almost every social situation so I can be the fun guy
>Years pass of doing this but realize friends are getting fewer and fewer
>There's only two left
>The realization hits me that no one liked that party guy and I was in fact an obnoxious, arrogant and aggressive drunk
>30 and no friends

Goddammit, I'm lonely.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:08:46 No.23839305 Report Delete

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I feel with you anon. Just start to drink less at parties. I dont say you have to avoid alcohol but maybe you should lower the amount. And just talk to your friends and go out with them.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:12:54 No.23839426 Report Delete

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Same. Started drinking like a motherfucker at partys because I didnt feel confortable until I was drunk.

Realized that it wasnt worth.

Started smoking weed instead.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:13:25 No.23839446 Report Delete

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>they all went hard in to LMAO WEED DUDE
>nothanks.jpg
>never understood the obsession
>they stop inviting me to 'chill'
>still hang out with them at school
>graduate
>realize i had no friends outside of school

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:14:30 No.23839484 Report Delete

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>>23838875
sames

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:15:04 No.23839502 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>23839585

I'm lazy and boring, I hardly ever come up with suggestions of things we can do, I never invite people home for a party etc. I'm too comfortable on my own.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:16:47 No.23839551 Report Delete

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>>23838875
your friends also moved onto doing other things:
a lot would have gotten married, so they do things with their coupled up friends
some will have had kids, so they spend time with their friends that are also parents
hangovers are harsher at 30, so drinking becomes less appealing
work is demanding more of their time and leaving them exhausted

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:17:26 No.23839568 Report Delete

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>>23838875
>be unlikable, anxious, and beta
>move to college town and become socially isolated
>slowly get worse
>friends who already couldn't care less about me now have even less of a reason to hang out with me

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:17:59 No.23839581 Report Delete

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>>23838875

>predominante left frontal lobe alteration

anxiety and madness took away my life

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:18:13 No.23839585 Report Delete

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>>23839502
I had a friend who was awkward but he used his place really well. He had his music his drugs his balcony, so people would always show up and being the host he didnt have to talk much everyone knew who he was.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:23:20 No.23839714 Report Delete

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>>23838875
>lose my only real friends when I changed schools
>lose church friends because of failed relationship with qt church childhood friend, I can't stand seeing her anymore without feeling feels
>lose rest of high-school friends because edgy phase followed by depression phase

Anonymous

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Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:24:04 No.23839737 Report Delete

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>>23838875
>Had small close group of friends at 16
>Played DnD together, got into weed and drinking a little but never to a serious degree
>Never had falling out, arguments, nothing. Perfect friend group
>Within 4 months, every single one of them move away
>Best friend out of all of them doesn't return any of my texts, never contacts me anymore despite previously talking every single day
>Now 22
>One year of college left now, still no friends. Any of the ones I might consider close will be gone and forget me in a year
I just want to be 16 again. I want to have friends, to be likable, and to be happy. I would give anything to get that again. I don't know what happened.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:26:06 No.23839793 Report Delete

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>>23838875
Holy shit this sounds like me. But it only took me 4 years and a serious relationship to figure out how much of an ass I was and start being better such that people liked me. But I lost all my friends regardless so I don't even have parties to go to where I can show off my drunk socialization skills.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:28:19 No.23839841 Report Delete

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>>23839568
Oh look, a post about my life.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:30:42 No.23839908 Report Delete

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>>23839551
Definitely. I've only recently curbed my drinking in years and now that I want to do things that don't involve drinking to excess I've got no one to do it with. The people who would be open to it are long estranged and my years of alcoholism and binge drinking have stalled my life and now I feel insecure about my lack of achievement by comparison.

This is going to sound pathetic but the other day I saw an episode of the Big Bang Theory and the four main characters were hanging out having dinner with their girlfriends and I felt so fucking depressed I could have cried.

I just want a close social circle. People I relate to, can confide in and enjoy spending time with.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:34:09 No.23840001 Report Delete

Quoted By: >>23840720

>>23838875
i'm an old fag as well, my friends fall into three categories

>old friends: the kids i hungout with in high school / uni / 20s. don't really see each other that often, most of them off doing their own thing, catchup sometimes and laugh about shit we used to do.

>work friends: maybe go out on friday night for a few drinks with them, sometimes eat lunch with them, don't see them on weekends etc

>hobby friends: the people you meet up with/talk to to do a hobby, example: there's a few guys i'll text on a Thursday night telling them where and when to meet if they want to come mountain biking

as i've gotten older i've noticed i have fewer close friends, but more people in my life overall.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:39:47 No.23840143 Report Delete

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>thought i had great social life in college.
>slowly come to realize im entirely 'secondary' within my circle of friends in college. always the last to know about road trips, group ventures to concerts, social outings, etc.
>post college work regular 9-5 sales job where i work on the road and dont really interact with anyone except potential buyers.
>didnt really have friends to begin with but now i def have no friends after college.
>still actively engage in personal hobbies to occupy spare time but now im just sadder and drink too much every night.
>always try to be likeable/chill guy. just wish someone would legit enjoy hanging out with me and doing stuff instead of seeing me as some sort of fringe on their social circle.
>im not even mad really. just wish i could change whatever part about me prevents me from having legit friendships with people.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 20:40:01 No.23840154 Report Delete

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>>23839908
"This is going to sound pathetic but the other day I saw an episode of the Big Bang Theory and the four main characters were hanging out having dinner with their girlfriends and I felt so fucking depressed I could have cried"
That crossed the feels line

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 29 Oct 2015 21:01:33 No.23840720 Report Delete

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>>23840001
It's gone the opposite for me. Fewer in both instances.

I have two friends I would probably consider my closest. I see one for an hour or so every 8-10 weeks, perhaps.

The other I see maybe 3-4 times a year and if I go out and do something in a group it will be with him because he is my conduit to my old group of friends. I don't see them without him anymore and if I call or text them to do something, I often get replies of "busy this week, we'll catch up soon" or no reply at all.

All I really want is 3 or 4 close friends. I don't care about numbers. Just a few people I see often. But this becomes exceedingly rare with age.

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