>>3859332Men and women have different conceptions of what it means
to cheat.
For men, it's very clear: "penis went in vagina yes or no?" A
woman can flirt with other men, and her bf will be paranoid,
but as long as she doesn't have sex with them, he does not
feel betrayed.
For women, it's more complicated. For her, it's not about
whether or not he has had sex with someone else, but about
the emotional commitment the man has had to the other
woman, and if she will be competing for his attention.
The evolutionary reasons for this are very interesting, and
have to do with the fact that women expend a lot of energy
in producing offspring, and men only expend significant
energy if he's taking care of his kids. So if he produces
offspring with another woman, his wife does not care, as
long as he does not have a commitment to it that competes
with the attention her kids get from him. On the other hand,
if the woman he's with is inpregnated by another man, he
will not want to spend his energy on raising kids that are
not his own and any sunk cost will have been for nothing.
Men and women don't understand each other very well,
and you can use this to your advantage. She will think it's
okay to have sex with you if she doesn't commit. So fuck
her. Once you have impregnated her, he won't want to
raise your kids, so he'll abandon her, freeing her up for a
long-term relationship with you.
