>>22673980This, it's just that prior to the 20th Century it was much harder to get out of an unhappy marriage.
Literary-style romantic "true" love was invented some middle and upper class people could feel less guilty about using their children as social currency.
Actual love is a kind of familiarity and compatibility that develops over time.
OP if you want to be in love, focus on living a good life and being a satisfied person. Make your quest for companionship secondary to that goal and you will stand a much greater chance of developing a long-lasting and satisfying romantic relationship.
If you start out thinking you must be in love to be happy, you will most likely rush in to a series of bad relationships as you try to fill that gap in your life and place unreasonable expectations on yourself and your partners.
