Hello soc. I have an interesting question for you guys that I can't seem to find an answer to. It's an old question with a twist. How much of an (social/moral) obligation do I have to be the friend of someone who I originally feel in love with? I met her on okcupid. I "fell in love" with her after the first date. We had so much in common that it blew my mind. I'm beta, so I told her that I liked her after the third date. I know I wasn't supposed to do that, but I couldn't help it. Anyway, things started falling apart after that. I realized that nothing was going to happen between us, so I told her I didn't want to know her anymore. But she kept texting me as if I never said anything. She would text me things like "how was work?", and I'd tell her to please stop texting me. Eventually, I came to the conclusion that she must care for me (as a friend) to some extent, so I started texting her back. We've been texting everyday since. This was about 4 months ago. She confides on me. She takes my advice. She shares accomplishments and disappointments. How much of an obligation do I have to be her friend if I feel that I am benefitting her life? It's hard to be her friend since I like her so much.

tl;dr: how much of an obligation do I have to be friends with the "love of my life" if I feel that our friendship is beneficial to her?